Bonnygirl2,  sending my condolences at this difficult time, the right words are hard to find at this sad time for you and your family, I am sorry for your loss. 

Post if you need support, there are kind people on this forum who understand how very upset you will be. Sometimes as well as family, reaching out to others in the same position may help.

Take care...x

Hi there ...

Just want to say I'm so so sorry you've lost your dad ... even when it means they are now free from pain, doesn't stop it hurting ...

He is safe now, wrapped up in your hearts ... big hug ... Chrissie

So sorry for your loss xx 

Thank you the worst bit is to come on Wednesday when we finally say goodbye to him x

Thanks  chrissy for your kind words yes it's a very sad time the funerals on Wednesday and the worse is going to come with families at feud with certain circumstances lot of anger flying about unfortunately xx

Hi there ...

Bless ya .. you should be really proud of yourself ... unfortunately funerals can bring out the worse in some people .. and just rise above it ... that day is for remembering your dad .. those that ruin the day, show themselves up .. 

I was so lucky when my mum and dad went, we all pulled together ... I can't imagine how hard this must be .. but be strong ... think of him ... and my thoughts will be with you .. let us know how it goes .. you can have a good old vent on here to get it all out ... big hug Chrissie

Thank you Linda for your kind words I am just sad at the fact the funerals on wednesday and there's a lot of anger flying about with the fact that I have invited my partner to the funeral and he never met my dad but there was reasons for that but my two sons are making it awkward for Me I just want him to be there as I might need him when I am at my saddest as a comfort is that bad I don't think so he's got his girlfriend coming and she only met my dad once or twice and didn't speak to him because my dad couldn't speak or have a conversation because the stroke he had two and a half years ago robbed him of his speech he could say a few things and was very hard to understand and that's the reason my partner never met my dad because I and my mum felt that it would be awkward for my dad not being able to get to know him it's a complicated situation to say the  least but that's what I am faced with on Wednesday not looking forward to it at all xx sorry for laying this on someone I don't know funerals seen to bring the worst out in families

I will do theres not going to be many people there as dad didn't want a big funeral he said he didn't want people there saying he was a great guy and they'd never met him he didn't like flowers either lol he was very stubborn funny too always made jokes mostly at other peoples expense it was his way or no way never held a grudge neither do I no point as lifes to short xx

Hi Bonnygirl2,

At my mum's funeral, my brothers ex wife and his partner ( of many years now)  were both there....families can be complicated but I hope as happened at mum's service, everybody is there to pay their respects for a person loved and missed, anything else doesn't really matter. It is easy for me to say that I know, I hope it all goes as well as can be expected. x