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I feel so angry all the time.

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Its been 7 months now since my dad has gone. I miss him so so much. I have decided to leave my partner of 10 years (which has been coming for a long time now, he is aggressive and treats me like a slave) It’s something my dad would loved to have heard and would have been by my side helping as much as he could. His death has made me realise that life is short and I’m deeply unhappy in my relationship ( I do have a wonderful little girl out of it)  I miss his love so much, I don’t feel like I will ever feel that again. My partner was not someone who showed me much love, he isn’t my rock so maybe it’s tainting my view. It’s making me feel so angry at everything, I have such a short fuse lately and I hate it. I miss his presence in my life, the constant texting, the concern, everything.

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    Hi there ...

    It's still so new and raw ... there's no right or wrong way to grieve ... and anger can be a part of that process ... if your marage is not good befor you lost your dad, then maybe it's time for new beginnings ... there are some amazing caring men out there ...

    Just imagine what your dad would say to you now ... if I'm confused I always say to myself ... what would my mum say ... life is crule, and it's never easy loosing a loving parent ... the pain we feel shows just how much we loved them ...

    Give yourself time ... don't rush those feelings .. acknowledge them, and tell yourself that's o.k to feel like that ... sending you a vertual hug ...  Chrissie x

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    Hi there sorry about your dad if he was your rock it must be even harder as partners should be but lots are not ive two adult daughters one has a great husband the other was rubbish weak made out he was tough and thought the world owed him so ive had a bit of experiance .but dont rush out and leave yourself in a bad place go see a solicititor on the quiate see what your entitled to .being with someone that makes you feel  unhappy is worse than being alone .so hope this difficult dillema your in works out for you but sit and have a good think as maybe your directing your anger at your partner you can go to relate counciling on your own and a good thing which may help you focuse is bereavment counciling ten years is a lot to walk away from and you have to be sure . Best wish paul

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    Hi, thanks for your replies. Unfortunately I’ve experienced years of aggression from my partner so I don’t think there is anything more to do. I’ve been a bit angry lately with my dad. It’s sounds selfish but he never told me before he died or during his treatment that everything would be ok. As soon as dad got the diagnosis he had gone. He spent the whole time from diagnosis terrified. I started to behave like my dad and the doctor said I must let him go or he would take me with him. He never accepted what was happening, and although he sorted out his finances (left passwords etc) he didn’t leave me with any hope. He died so afraid and now I am to, I feel like I carry his fear with me. I wish somehow he could have let me know it was ok. I thought maybe he would be able to come to me now with some kind of sign, but nothing.

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    Hi dont look for the signs they will come when you least expect them .well if your getting aggresion thats a no no we are not here to be someone elses elses punchbag and lifes to short your dad ime sure will have done his best for you certainly sounds like you did for him its unknown territory is all this and we do what we know what to do at the time so i suggest you go see a solisitor i hope it all works out for you with as little pain as possible .paul ps ime not a dr or anything but sounds like that fear you have is anxiaty your gp can help you with that i didnt think i would get any singhns but wierd things happend after liz passed i think they stay around for a while befor they move on and ime one of the biggest skeptics one lady used to find feathers this seems to happen to many other things small but not explainable 

     

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