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chloexo123
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Hiya my name is Chloe and im 16, I sadly lost my nan a couple of weeks ago,she had cancer in her lungs, neck and brain. I’m missing her like crazy and i can’t stop crying, I honestly feel like I can’t cope any longer and I need help on how to take my mind off of things, or even do nice things in celebration of my nan. I’m just getting over the passing of my grandfather who passed 6 years ago me and him was very close and had a good bond. But my one with my nan was even tighter it was unbreakable and I honestly don’t know what to do. Thank you. Also feel free to message me x

 

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    How fabulous that you had such a great bond with your nan. I don't know where you live, but in the UK you can call Samaritans any time for support. Their number is 116123. If you google them, they also have an email helpline but it can take 24 hours for response.

    When you love someone, it can lead to incredible pain if you lose them. But the alternative is never knowing that love in the first place. Please try to hold on to all the good times, and lessons learned along the way. You are capable of great things.

    I hope you have other people around to look out for you. 

    regards, gamechanger

     

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    Oh Chloe, I feel for you I lost my sister and wife within a a couple of days of each other I was devastated my sister and I were very close and my wife was my life and best friend. I’ve often thought about joining them because I’ve no one else in my life. But Chloe you’re very young and could meet someone who is special in your life and your heart, and you will never forget your loss you could thank of them looking down on you and your own family with pride..I wish I could do more but I wish you happiness and fortune in all you do..x

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    Aw no I’m so sorry to hear that, Imsure you have people who love you around you and wouldn’t want you to join your sister and wife even though youve felt that way. I just feel so lost without her and not knowingly what to do anymore, I’ve tried things the other day which I thought was th best option but I thought it would be selfish and she wouldn’t be proud of me for giving up. But thank you so much for your reply it means so much, I wish you happiness and fortune also x

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    Aw thank you so much for that! And yeah we had some amazing memories and I’m definitely going to hold on to them! I have a ornament of hers which I’ve always liked which is making me feel closer to her. But thank you again for your reply x

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    I lost my very close 16 year old cousin to this terrible disease and one year later I was diagnosed. I have photos of my cousin as he maybe gone but never forgotten and I do special things on birthdays and anniversary. 

    Time is a healer and I know he would be so cross if I moped about the place. McMillan ante helpful in terms of counselling, you got to try turn a negative in a positive,....,..I know it sounds easier than doing but over time you will X

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