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Life is really hard without mum.

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Hello all. I am 20 years old and my mum would now be 55. I lost her on January 7th this year, 2018. She had ovarian cancer for 3 years. There was absolutely no route for her to die. Although I thought of it a lot, she would not allow it to happen. After numerous pristine scans and blood results. It was not the route she’d take lightly. She always reacted well to Chemo and battled beautifully. It has been 8 months now. I couldn’t go back to uni, so I’m  back to living with my dad. I For my whole life I’ve never got on with him, I am doing well to tolerate him even though I don’t have a choice. I think he is struggling to be a parent to me because mum was all I have ever needed. So he’s not had to.  I am really struggling. I’m seeing a counsellor lady who helped mum too and knows me very well. I have a job I love. So I’m keeping busy. We did everything together and I did everything I could to help her. She was the best parent. I have always been reserved and never really talk about my life so my situation now makes it even harder. Talking doesn’t really help me. I am finding life really hard. Because I’m so young. I haven’t been able to do what everyone gets to do with their mums later on in life. I was wondering if anyone has gone through similar to me so I could maybe feel assured I’m not alone. Please can anyone give me some words of encouragement. Thankyou X

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    I lost my mum when I was 11, I’m now 19 I’m not going to say it gets easier because losing a parent young any time in your life is so hard, but you learn to accept it more as you come to terms with it, it’s always there but it’s not as hard or raw as time goes on and you start to think more positive and think about the good things instead of the bad always here if you wanna chat x

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    I lost my mother to lung cancer 6 years ago, got an appoligy from the hospital." She was aux nurse" for 20 odd tears and jrn doctor missed cancer on x-Ray and she got phone call 8 weeks later. She had lung cancer. She died just before x mas.

    Then me and my 2 sister's had too look after my father who was useless in the house, he died of bladder cancer 3 years ago. 

    Again it took me and my sister 5 visits to hospital before the noticed the cancer. He passed away on thr 6th of June 2015. 

    At the same time I was looking after my father, my wife was diagnosed with the same cancer as my father,. 

    Devastating,  looking after my father wife and my sister ended up in hospital with exhuststing traveling up from London to help me look after dad and wife.

    My wife, dad and sister all in same hospital at same time.

    My sister got better, but my father died.

    Exactly one year after my father passed away, my wife passed away.

    At the funeral my sister told me she had breast cancer, but she came through it. 

    I am so great full that even thou i lost so meny people I lost, I still have a sister to fall back on.

    You always need to be great full for the people you have around that counts.

    Don't turn down a chance to talk. 

    Remember the good times that make you smile, it works for me,

    Take care and keep smilling.x

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