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Missing my husband so much

QueenTra
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It's almost 4 months since my love left this life and the pain of missing him is still sharp and fresh. On May 3 he succumbed to colon cancer after a two and a half year fight to the very end. He was a beautiful man who loved me from the beginning to the end of his days. I miss his poetic texts and spontaneous affection. He had a great sense of humor but was serious about the value of life. His last three months were filled with pain so I'm relieved that he's free from that, I just miss him so much especially at night and weekends. I do have lots of family and friends who've been quite supportive but none of them know what it feels like that's why reading posts in this forum have been really therapeutic for me, thanks everyone.

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    Hi there QueenTra; welcome.  This forum is great - it is so good to know that you are not the only person who has been through this and here people feel able to let out their deepest thoughts and know that they will be understood.  I started posting here some months ago - over the years I have lost too many family and friends to cancer.  It is just nice to know that you are not the only person suffering in this way here so please do talk about the details of your sorrow if it helps you.   Life can be so very hard sometimes and we should and can be there for each other.  It is also reassuring to know that in this world which seems to be full of bad news and terrible events there are in fact so many good people around who want to make the world a better and easier place for each other.  Annie 

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    Hi Annieliz thanks for replying it was comforting to read. Being able to read others' experiences and talk freely is somehow so comforting. I've recommended this forum which I basically stumbled upon one night in my sorrow searching for an outlet.

    Loss is hard to explain to those who've never really experienced it and I remember being on that side of the fence before. Now it's all I think about. Even though friends say call whenever you need to I am uncomfortable doing so because it still seems so unreal and although they may not feel so, I feel as if I'm stressing them constantly talking about my husband's illness and passing so I don't.

    Hopefully we will emerge stronger after such sorrowful experiences as we who go through it comfort and strengthen each other with God's help.

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    Hi Annieliz thanks for replying it was comforting to read. Being able to read others' experiences and talk freely is somehow so comforting. I've recommended this forum which I basically stumbled upon one night in my sorrow searching for an outlet.

    Loss is hard to explain to those who've never really experienced it and I remember being on that side of the fence before. Now it's all I think about. Even though friends say call whenever you need to I am uncomfortable doing so because it still seems so unreal and although they may not feel so, I feel as if I'm stressing them constantly talking about my husband's illness and passing so I don't.

    Hopefully we will emerge stronger after such sorrowful experiences as we who go through it comfort and strengthen each other with God's help.

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