Hi cancer is so unpredictable it can cause all sorts of symptoms backach leg pains cough .people can survive days months years all you can do now is go through your grief as best you can .theres so much out there to help you deal with it theres the cruise helpline its free numbers on internet and they will listen and try to help .theres allso the the mc mc.millan nurse helpline they may give you some answers so sorry you losts your ex but when you love someone ex doesnt come into it he was your love and thats what matters ime shure otheres will be along to chat . But ring thoes numbers explaine they are realy helpfull and understanding .p

i cant believe how powerful your words are to hear somebody say its not an ex in love makes me sigh a little relief so thank you 

i will take a look on the macmillian site thank you and yes my doctor gave me details for cruise i will be calling them too. 

Hello leahjane.  Paulus is right to say that cancer is unpredictable; people may have the cancer growing inside them without knowing anything about it until some niggly little discomfort prods them to go and see a doctor.  Relationships can take many forms and I am sorry you were not able to be there with him.  My son's father died from lung cancer (he had been a smoker all his life) but did not know he was terminally ill until he had difficulty in moving his arm as the cancer had spread.   From that moment things started to move quickly.  My son's dad didn't want our son (who lives in New Zealand) to know how ill he was and tried to get me to tell him that he was was recovering well.  He really wasn't thinking straight; in these days of instant contact everyone in his family and circle were making contact and our son had booked his flight.  It may have been a similar position with your ex (the not thinking straight, that is) so don't worry yourself too much about the way things happened.  It doesn't reflect on his relationship with you.    Incidentally, to answer one question, my son's dad was never in serious pain - this can be kept under control in most cases.    Annie

Your wellcome .if you just need a bit of support or a rant come back there will always be someone to answer .p