Hello Les1934.  I am so sorry you have lost your wife to cancer. Please don't beat yourself up so much;  you cannot live with somebody for all those years without having disgreements; it doesn't mean that the love has gone.  Also I believe that many loving partners find it easier to sleep on their own - again it doesn't mean the love has gone but only that you want a good nights sleep! 

Grieving is different for everyone; I think you just have to do what feels right for you - even though my parents have been dead for some time now, and my son's father also died from cancer a few years ago I still look at their photographs.  And there is no fixed timespan for grieving; even when you think you are starting to get over your loss the grief can come back and bite you suddenly.  While we know that the people we love may die and leave us bereft we cannot - until it happens - really imagine what it means. 

I am enclosing some information about grief from thisi website which you may like to read.  Try to be thankful for having had such a great love for as long as you did; sadly you are going through the downside of this now but we are always here so do keep posting if you want to write about your feelings as time goes on.  Annie

www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../coping-with-grief

Hi Annieliz. Have downloaded your imformation "Coping with grief" Will read  and digest it. I am sure it will help. Can I keep in touch with you. I am sure chatting with you will also help.

Les  

Hi again.  Of course you can keep in touch for as long or as little as you like.  I will look out for your posts and I expect others here will also have some helpful insights born of experience.  Annie