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Can’t cope

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Hi, 

I lost my mum in September and as every day goes on people say I will get easier however they are wrong. Im struggle every day to come to terms with it. I get angrier I get stressed I can’t carry on. I want to run away and hide and cope with this my way but life just doesn’t let that happens. It true when they say life goes on, but I’m not ready to go on with it i no longer enjoy the life I’ve been giving I feel like I’ve been dealt a really sh*t set of cards. I also last my granny a week after losing my mum and I now have the fear of losing me people. The life i lived and loved before have been taken away from me,I feel so alone i just can’t get going on like this. 

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    Hi sorry about your mum theres no time limit to grieving do it at your own pace i found what goes with grief is anxiaty thats the baddie ime not a doctor but happend to me so went to gp and she gave me something for the anxiaty it took the edge off theye say grief has to be gone through but if you can get a bit of help you go for it i did .p

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    Again I know exactly how you feel ,people say time is a great healer,and do not worry Alison things will get easier,they are not they are getting worse,I am not coping either

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    Hi kate I only lost my dad 3 weeks ago; I still have a lot of feelings running all over the place with ups and downs all the time. When ever I’m sad or upset or freightened I think what would Dad want me to do; he wouldn’t want me to crumble, he would want me to be strong embrace the life that he helped create for me...that doesn’t mean I ignore my feeling or block them out...I just think that whoever it gets tough he’s actually here beside me willing me on.

     

    Since his passing a lot of things have happened in the house which I can’t explain; for many years I was sceptical about what happens when we die; but having been through the last few weeks I know there is a place for us. And we didn’t go looking for these things either by mediums or religion they jus happened. I promise you your mum and nan are not just within you but they are and will time to time be close or by your side.

    I know that I too want my dad back and for the cancer to be gone and for things to have been different; but I know he wouldn’t not want me to continue making him proud like all the days we had together.

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