Hi there ... There's no right or wrong way to feel ... I lost both mum and dad in my 30s ... She was my best buddy ... And an amazing nanny to my boys ... And that first year feels raw ... Like a wound that won't heal ... And for years I wanted to call her phone in case I'd just had a nightmare and of course she was still here ... I pass her old house and in my head she's still in there making her crispy chips ... And my mum's been gone nearly 30 years ... 

But after that first year, I knew she still lived, tucked up in my heart safely ...  And we still talk about her, we just brought her along on this journey of life ... My son's still put photos on their face book of her all these ears later ... There's no easy way through ... It's so hard, because they were so loved ... An old saying I loved was "don't cry because you lost someone, smile because you were blessed to have had them in your life" .... So you feel what you have to feel ... Know it's o.k ... Your just human ... You will miss her forever, but you do learn to live without them ... But look in the mirror... You'll see her right there ... She made you, you are part of her ...   Sending you a big vertual hug ... Chrissie x

Hi the ton of bricks hit me after two months but my loss was diffrent but you go through grief but it takes time . I found the false guilt hurt most as it goes hand in hand with grief the shoulda woulda cudda .but it does get better every day you may not notice it its so slight like every day in summer it gets darker earlier but so slow you dont notice it just keep telling yourself out loud to yourself the pain will get better .crissies my friend on here she has been helping me. But the straight answer your looking for is yes the pain does go . But like crissie said your still raw but give it time  but dont hold it in ime a guy and ive cried like baby ime not ashamed go talk to your friends and family how you feel if you dont it will last longer .p

Hey there, and also a kind hello from Australia. 

I have not posted on here since Jan 2018, and when I did, I was posting just a few weeks after losing my Mum who was also my world. The initial pain hits you like a steam train I know, but somehow the strength my mum showed during her battle keeps me going, the endless and selfless love was there with her right to the end. 

6 months on, there is not a moment in the day when I do not think of my Mum, but each day goes get a little easier. If I can give you any advice it will be to never stop thinking about your Mum, just because she is out of sight, she should never be out of mind. Reminisce, and look at old photos, go to places where you shared great memories together because she is always going to be with you. My mum is now my conscience, ''what would Mum say''.....

Like mine, your mum was so so young, and I go through so many angry stages but the anger does not help anyone, all we can do is try and live a life that our Mum's will be proud of because after all, they will always be looking down on us. 

Sending best wishes!

Hi,

I'm so sorry that you are having to face this. Like you, I lost my mum last month and feel so lost without her.  She would always be the first one here with a hug and a loving support, yet now when we need her the most, she can't be.

Take your time and be open to your emotions and feelings. That's all we can do I suppose. It hits you suddenly and feels like your chest is crushing but we are early in this hellish journey. I know that my mum is watching me and her grandchildren giving us strength and those supportive hugs still- just in a different form.

Take care x

I’m 32 losing my mum, I knew it was coming. But it’s surreal 

Hi ya ...

So so sorry, your loosing your mum ... l was 36 so I know just how hard it is ... she was my best buddy ... and my son's wonderfull nanny ...

All I can say is live in the day ... I never got a chance to even say goodbye to my mum .. she had a massive heart attack. . We chatted on the phone that morning .. at 5.20 she was gone ... try not to think of the future because then you loose the present ... you holding her hand ... walking beside her ... Will forever stay in your heart ... leave nothing unsaid ... share tears and hugs and it's o.k to admit your both scared ... make every second count ... if only I'd have had one hour with my mum ... 

And they do stay close .. you just can't see them ... take her love and memories along your journey through life... we only loose them when we stop talking about them ... my mum's been gone 30 years this year ... yes I did get used to living without her ... but I miss her as much to day as l did then ...

Sending you a vertual hug .... Chrissie xx