Hello Debolina and your lovely dogs.  You are having a difficult time; hard enough to cope with losing your husband but then to have to cope with housing issues when you don't feel up to doing anything must feel totally beyond you.   If you desperately want to get back to Kent then I would try to find out how much the repair issues to your house will cost.  I don't know how Cambridgeshire housing prices compare to the part of Kent where you want to live.  You can either sell your house as it is for a lower price (be sure to obtain an estimate of the cost of the works so you know approximately how far the price will have to be dropped) or take out a loan to get the work done if this is feasible.  You might then have to look at a smaller property in Kent - a flat maybe rather than a house? - but at least you would be in the area where you wish to live.  Is there any chance of you managing to do this?  I am sorry your life has taken such an awful turn - do you have any friends who can help you?  Annie

Hi ive been divorced and widowd so ime having to pic myself up again but i joined a social club the first time and although it seemed realy hard at the begining i had been married thirty years it turned my life around allso you may consider joining a walking group there are so many people out there that are lonely have been hurt widowed etc that if you percivier you will find friends but dont give up .me ime going through hell at the moment with grief the loneliness is terrible but have done the same again as i live in another town ive joind another club ive been once on a short walk and a pub meal afterward it was hell but ime keeping going because you just have to but everyone was about your age younger and older but very kind i felt so guilty my liz wasnt with me but you have to keep going liz would have done the same if i had passed dosnt mean you dont love your partner or husband any less regards p