Hi everyone I'm new to this forum. I want to firstly say how lovely it is for all.of you to have somewhere such as here to share, support and to get things off your chest.

My dad only has weeks to live and it just seem real. One minute I'm handling it then the next thing I'm a bundle of mess. It doesn't help that I suffer from mental health issues as I cope even less what is already a devastating Situation for anyone in the first place. To top it off, we also lost our beautiful staffy in Jan. Someone mentioned how nights are the worst for ruminating which is so true. How do others feel?

Love to all 

Hi Cef,

I am so sorry that your Dad has only weeks to live, it must be truly devstating for you all to know this and try to get through each day with that heartbreak. My Mum was diagnosed with advanced incureable cancer in February, she started a chemo drug in March and died last month from covid pneumonia/cancer. We never had a timeline given to us and we never asked. I always believed Mum could pull through and outlive their statistics because she had got through cancer 3 years previously and I felt she was almost superhuman at times. I guess I just never wanted to face what was staring right at me, that Mum had a life sentence that she wasn't going to get over. I can understand your pain and also with the mental health. I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks and this has just tipped me nearly at times. I am trying to stay strong because I know if I don't what then? Please reach out to your GP for help, they can advice or refer you to someone who may be able to give you some extra support.

I am sorry you lost your dog too. My Dog, nelson is keeping me going right now. Would you be able to get another dog in the near future? Their uncomplicated natures and unconditional love can be life savers.

Nigh times were terrible for me when Mum was alive. I kept listening to see if she needed me. Checking my mobile. getting up to go in her room and see her. When she was in hospital I simply hardly slept. I think this is completely normal with what you are going through. Please speak to someone and make sure you are supported.

Here if you need to talk. Please know that there are people out there to help you and even if its just to chat on here, we will help in anyway we can.

Jane

Hi Cef,

I am so sorry that your Dad has only weeks to live, it must be truly devstating for you all to know this and try to get through each day with that heartbreak. My Mum was diagnosed with advanced incureable cancer in February, she started a chemo drug in March and died last month from covid pneumonia/cancer. We never had a timeline given to us and we never asked. I always believed Mum could pull through and outlive their statistics because she had got through cancer 3 years previously and I felt she was almost superhuman at times. I guess I just never wanted to face what was staring right at me, that Mum had a life sentence that she wasn't going to get over. I can understand your pain and also with the mental health. I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks and this has just tipped me nearly at times. I am trying to stay strong because I know if I don't what then? Please reach out to your GP for help, they can advice or refer you to someone who may be able to give you some extra support.

I am sorry you lost your dog too. My Dog, nelson is keeping me going right now. Would you be able to get another dog in the near future? Their uncomplicated natures and unconditional love can be life savers.

Nigh times were terrible for me when Mum was alive. I kept listening to see if she needed me. Checking my mobile. getting up to go in her room and see her. When she was in hospital I simply hardly slept. I think this is completely normal with what you are going through. Please speak to someone and make sure you are supported.

Here if you need to talk. Please know that there are people out there to help you and even if its just to chat on here, we will help in anyway we can.

Jane

Hi ChrissyJ, thankyou for your kind words. I'm so sorry about what you have/are going through. Have you much support? I'm under a mental health team which is good although the services are inundated understandably and so sometimes you have to wait for help. And losing Brody was horrendous as you are right in that we got unconditional love he was so loving and funny. Life is so cruel at times hey. Sending all my love.

Clair x