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I still can’t believe my dad has gone.

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It’s coming up to 3 months since my dad died and I still can’t accept that he has gone. I carry I heavy ness around with me on my chest making it hard to breath. At night the pain is really bad and I see him laying in the bed dying and his face. I can’t seem to picture him before, I can barely look at a picture for a few seconds before it’s too painful. I can’t look ahead anymore, all my future seems to have gone and it’s too painful to even try and think about it as he isn’t going to be in it. I hope this is all normal because it doesn’t feel like it to me!

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    Hi,

    I lost my dad almost 3 months a go too. I can't offer you advice because I'm completely lost myself. I can tell you (and feel relieved myself) that you're not alone. 

     

  • Offline in reply to NoName19

    I've just lost my Dad x literally 6 weeks tomorrow and I still can't believe he is gone. I can't stop crying. As an only child I was so close to him and he was my hero. He didn't even tell me he was ill. He died of Stage 4 bladder cancer. Collapsed at home on the Friday, dies on the Tuesday x I feel sad, angry, lost. He was my hero. What now????

  • Offline in reply to Nathalie13

    What now is taking time to process what has happened but don't spend the whole day doing that live and do what you normally would then take the time to try and process things. I try and say right ok everyone on earth has to die and transition from this world to the spirit world so that is what has happened. They would want us to live life to the fullest now be happy

    and enjoy while we can then when it is our time to be reunited that will happen. It is nice to know we will be reunited in that way but nice to now that actually they are still with us just in another format and if you focus on that you realise they never actually leave us. 
     

    it's crippling pain and I am still in disbelief if I'm totally honest but i am starting to realise that it is inevitable for everyone so enjoy what you can each day 

     

    Hope you are ok xxx

  • Offline in reply to Nathalie13
    Hi I lost my dad suddenly in July this year, I’m heartbroken but your dad did not tell you because he did not want you to know he did not want you to worry, my dad was the exact same way, I have my mum still here but she’s heartbroken I have a sister that lives with her with learning difficulties, I had to arrange everything, I even had my dads ashes in the shed for a while before he was buried, I always talk to my dad, I cry every day more than once, and when I see people with their dads I nearly scream out” why my dad why did he have to die” , I’m so sorry for your loss losing a parent is the worst thing I have ever had to go through, I hope it gets better for us both xx
  • Offline in reply to Nathalie13

    So sorry to hear about your dad l feel your sadness as my dad passed away on the 2nd november 2019...had to wait 2wks for his funeral which was so hard ...l was with my dad everyday was hard not working but felt it was my duty as his only daughter to care for him ...18months he had cancer was only me that attended every hospital appointment hearing sad news infront of him and for his sake not to get upset he could see it was hard on us both ..sleepless nights holding his hand in hospital watching him deteriorate in front of me l still stayed strong for my dads sake ...and now l cant be strong am totally falling apart my dad wouldnt like me being like this ...why our dad ...daddies girls unconditional bond and love forever x

     

  • Offline in reply to Wend68

    I'm so so sorry for your loss xxx 

    every day is getting harder and harder to accept he is gone :-(

    Im trying so hard to get in the Christmas spirit for the sake of my children. 
     

    Why did it have to be our Dads????? 
     

    xxxx

  • Offline in reply to Nathalie13

    I googled, I still cant believe my dad has gone!! My dad died a month ago, yes we are still in denial. I am now looking after my mum most nights and also have 3 kids at home. Luckily my brothers help too. We know the pain will never go away and life will never be the same. We are lucky to have beautiful memories and my children are old enough to remember their granddad.

    Covid stopped us being with my dad before he died, so he died alone. This I will never accept.  Most days I feel angry that my dad was taken away so sudden and only at the age of 70, he hadn't retired fully to enjoy the rest of his life. Cancer took my poor dad away from us. 

    God Bless you all and reading all your comments made me feel I wasn't alone. Life does go on and my dad lives in us and my children xxxx 

  • Offline in reply to Christine-

    I have been reading the posts and you are all truly amazing people. 
     

    I lost my dad just over one year ago. I talk about my dad every day. I have had feelings of I know my dad has gone, he past away peacefully with all of his children around him, but I also for a long time had a feeling that dad is away and I'll see him again.

     

    then today all of a sudden, I realised dad has gone and he is not coming back. The thought of thinking it is devestating.

     

    I just wanted to find out if anyone else

    had the same feelings with their grieving.

     

  • Offline in reply to charliemm

    I'm writing this as the tears flow. I too posted I can't believe my Dad is gone as I've had an awful evening of uncontrollable crying. I lost the most precious person whom I adored on the 4th Dec to Cancer. We put him to rest on Christmas Eve with the hymn Silent Night. COVID didn't make it easy either but I was fortunate enough to be by his side when he passed. It's been two months, life carries on around you but there is a deep void within you. I just wish I could wake up 

    You are not alone, Dad’s are so special x

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  • Offline in reply to charliemm

    I'm writing this as the tears flow. I too posted I can't believe my Dad is gone as I've had an awful evening of uncontrollable crying. I lost the most precious person whom I adored on the 4th Dec to Cancer. We put him to rest on Christmas Eve with the hymn Silent Night. COVID didn't make it easy either but I was fortunate enough to be by his side when he passed. It's been two months, life carries on around you but there is a deep void within you. I just wish I could wake up 

    You are not alone, Dad’s are so special x

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