Afterlife daydreams

I don't really believe in heaven, or any kind of afterlife. But I just thought I'd share my little daydream I had the other day about my recently deceased mother. I was cleaning the kitchen, and I imagined that she was suddenly there with me in spirit, marveling at all my hard work. Then she wanted me to see how well she could walk now (she hadn't walked in 40 years due to a neurological disorder), in fact she could now tap dance! And she wanted to show off how much fun she was having. But then she got bored, so she went outside to catch up with some old friends, and smoke a cigarette (because they can't hurt her anymore) while listening to her favourite jazz music.

I've never lost anyone close to me before, and losing my mom just four weeks ago has been very difficult. I wonder if this is a common way to cope? Does this sort of thing happen to any of you?

  • Hi there ... your thread brought back a memory of my mum shortly after l lost her ...

    She was walking away along the promenade where she used to work, when she was younger... her arm around someone she loved and she was young again ... I just knew it was her ... she turned back to look at me, smiled a beautiful smile at me for awhile... turned away and they carried on walking away ..

    I got the most wonderfull feeling she was saying she was happy now and with the one she loved ... l felt at piece ... and that dream is as real to me now as the day I dreamed it ... Chrissie

  • Wow, I completely pictured that scene like I just watched it in a movie. I can see why it's still so vivid for you! What a wonderful memory!

  • I think in your dream, it's not the kitchen cleaning ... I think she was saying she's proud of how your doing ... and she was saying look no pain. ... I can walk ... and I'm happy ... don't know about the crafty *** though ... she definatly had a sense of humour .....

    I don't care if they are just dreams but I'd love to think they were just telling us, their o.k ....

    Chrissie xx 

  • Hi seraphine

    I am very sorry to hear of your mum's passing and I really hope you're doing as well as you can in these very early days..

    I'd also like to thank you for your very kind words to me last week about my own mothers issues. You helped me so much despite your  own pain and to do that for a stranger is testament to the wonderful mother you had who raised you to be the compassionate person you are. I was particularly touched especially after what you're going through yourself. It really made me see that good people exist and its in these terribly dark times that people like you shine so bright. I've no doubt your lovely mother is doing her own happy dance right beside you!

    I believe in an after life, I'm not ovely religious but I have a belief that a greater being than ourselves is watching over us. 

    A few days after my uncle passed I had a dream that 10 years on I still remember like it was yesterday. 

    I was walking in a field beside him on the farm he lived on . this was a well worn path and I was a child again. He was laughing at me and smiling but I could barely see him because the sun was shining on him so brightly. It was an unnatural searing and blinding sun light and one I've never seen even in the sunniest countries I've visited(and certainly not in Ireland where I live!) it was the closest feeling and sense of 'Heaven' I've ever had. Shortly after that (still dreaming!) I came across my parents who were sitting at an outdoor cafe but the sun light that was on them was so dull and watery in comparison to the light that shone on my uncle. In that instance I stopped grieving him (still miss him!) and realised that where he is is a place that is safe , happy and full of beauty.. it slightly demystified death and the afterlife for me and I'm certain I'll meet him again when the time is right.  it gives me courage that all these wonderful people are on the other side watching is and loving us and death can't break or destroy that. 

    Thought and love to you x 

  • Hi we have spoken before. Ime a very lodgical guy dont beleive in god as such but since i lost my liz ive had some very wierd wierd things happen.one morning i got up turned off tv tn bedroom went downstairs juriing the morn i had come upstairs to bathroom and heard nothing later on came upstairs and heard tv on so walked into bedroom and the tv was on but not just on the royle wedding was on .well ive never had this tv come on its own ever .i felt liz there because she used to come upstairs somtimes and whatch tv.and be comphy on the bed now this is the thing i know she would have come up to whatch all the dresses and pomp etc so now ime begining to feel that perhaps they come back around us from time to time so i said hello sweetie and left tv on till it finnish and went downstairs .this is only a small amount of things that have happend as she said she would always be with me and now i.  Beleive this not god but spiritual becaus in science energy can neither be produced or destroyed and the universe wasts nothing .p

  • Denise10 thank you for sharing that beautiful memory! I find it amazing how vivid all of these images are. Like I'm there seeing it all too! And I'm really glad that my words made a difference to your day! I know when my mom passed I was really lucky to have a lot of supportive people showering me with kindness and I know how important is to feel supported during difficult times! I wish I had found this forum when my mom was first diagnosed with cancer.

  • Wow Paulus that sounds really amazing, having some sort of contact. I've heard a lot of people experience these sorts of things, particularly in the beginning. I just wish we could keep the connection beyond, you know? I was reading about Afer Life Communications and I must say, it was intriguing. But it's so hard for me to think like that, because I've always questioned everything.

    But I do believe that energy is recycled, and I really do have a hard time imagining my mother really gone. It's really nice to think of her on another plane of existance. 

  • Hi absolutely i must be one of the biggest skeptics on the planet .thers one other thing whitch would take to long that led to the hospital finding something that thy would never have found i think carl jung jung called sinergie its all strange to me ive felt liz cuddling me in bed not a physical feeling like warm solid warm air on my back and for the evening or two i had a releif releif from this all consuming grief so all i can say is our loved ones come from time to time to see use when we need them despretly and that its not in my mind nor i beleive in  yours

  • Hi i beleive now . 6 months ago i would have laught if someone had told me that .but not now to many things have happend ive not seen Lizzie but felt her she had so many underlying health problems and i had kept my sweetie proped up and we had a love that many never had not a soul mate we were one soul i beleive she was trying to comfort me when at my lowest .just as your mum has .so thats my beleif as i said its spiritual  and scieces combined not god as we are tought .hope its brought you some comfort comfort .to best wishs paul and thank you 

  • Hi ... what a lovely thread you started ... just one more little thought ..

    You don't have to be religious... you can have any faith, any age ... you just have to BELIEVE there's a song that springs to mind ... "when you believe " those signs don't come when you ask.. they come out of the blue .. you can either say , it's just coincidence... or you can say thanks to whoever send you a little message .. weather spouse, loved one, friend, ...  

    I got feathers everywhere from being diagnosed ... mostly in my bra ... I remember looking up and saying .. "it's o.k mum, I know it's you"  the day I got the good news they stopped .. now my sister with dementia has them around her .. but you have to BELIEVE... my granddaughter says when she finds a beautiful feather .. look nanny your mummy is saying hi ...