Dad passed nearly 3 years ago and I'm still struggling

Hello everyone,

I lost my dad to multiple myeloma in September 2015. When I say my dad was my best friend he was, we did everything together, I loved him (still do) so much and I'm really really struggling. There isn't a day or even an hour that goes by that I'm not thinking of him. Sometimes I feel like it happened yesterday. I really am at a loss on what to do and how to make myself feel better. I've been to counselling and it helped for a while but now I'm just back at the beginning.

if anyone could share similar stories and how they're getting though it or just some advice would be appreciated x

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat JessicaH although I'm really sorry to read about your dad and would like to offer you my sincerest sympathy.

    I know you're wanting to hear from others who have been in a similar situation so I've had a quick look around the forum and found two members who also have lost loved ones to multiple myeloma. [@Mrcyorks]‍'s mum passed away three years ago and [@hertsmum]‍'s dad passed away last year and hopefully they will pop by when they can to share their advice and experiences with you which I hope will help you at this time. 

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi theres a recognised thing called complicated grief i read about it a while ago ime not a dr or anything so ime only saying what ive read  maybe go and see your gp and mention it there is treatment for it but if you dont ask how will they help its very difficult to post stuff like this  but thats what i read its   a prolonged type of greif but who knows how long grief should last sorry your in such distress must be horrible for you . P