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Dealing with loss of Grandad

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hi,

i lost my grandad to prostate cancer on March 13th, and since then I've been struggling to cope. He was a father figure to me, and i definitely was much closer to him than I am to my dad. I haven't gotten any better since he passed, and i am still struggling to eat, sleep and concentrate. I have talked to my tutor about this since she is the only adult I trust and feel open to talk to. Since I am in the school holidays, I have no one to talk to (my parents don't really care about how I'm feeling too much) and have been struggling. No one really knows that i have been struggling though, since I have put on an act to make it look like i'm ok, and i only let it down when i'm on my own or alone with someone i trust. Do you have any tips on how i can start dealing with it a bit better? i think it would help to know someone else is struggling, and i'm not the only pretending everything is ok.

Kirst x

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    Girl, I promise you, you are not alone! I am in the exact same position as you, my Grandad passed away on the 3rd May, after the funeral last week it has only seem to properly hit me, I’m not eating, sleeping or concentrating very well either. My advice would be honestly try and talk to your parents about how you feel, they may care but may be masking it and not asking you how you are because you’re hiding it aswell?

    if not I’ve heard doctors, grief councillors, there’s loads of people we can turn too in time of need, just coming on here and reading and replying to some people in the exact same position as myself seems to be really helping me realise I am not alone, so please stick around and I hope it can help you

    shan x

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    Thanks! I have been put through to a counsellor, but nothing much had happened yet! Every time i try to talk to my parents, they seem to shout so in the end I have given up! It's nice to know that I'm not alone, and someone else is going through it aswell!

    Kirsty x

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