Hi shan

welcome to the forum and sorry to hear that you have lost some who has been so important in helping you get to where you are today.

We all deal with grief differently and sometimes when we think we are in control and dealing with it, it has a habit of reminding us that we are not.

with your grandad it is very early days and you have a lot to cherish and be thankful for that you have had such a wonderful man in your life.

dont be too hard on yourself, you are going to miss someone this important in your life.

I believe the moderators on here can give you good advice on where to seek guidance and advice on grief, there will also be a lot of great people on here who have and are dealing with loss of a loved one, who can help you feel that you are not alone in this process

happy thoughts of a great man and let us know how you get on

vatch

Hi Vatch,

Thankyou for your reply, I’ve seen you’ve been on this site for a few years now, I’ve been reading into other discussions and other people’s stories and this site is amazing, definitely helps you to not feel alone. Will be sticking around for a while!

shan 

Hay shan ... read your other posts.. looks like hes still looking over you ... bet he's right proud of his granddaughter... and trying to make you smile ...

I used to pretend my untie was still in her flat, and just away somewhere .. she was the first relative l lost .. and l couldn't go to her funeral so l could carry on believing she hadn't gone ... and my mum ... l used to pass her home and in my head said if l just went through her door, she'd be sitting there by the cooker , making her crispy chips ... it got me through those hard first year ... 

My then husband wasn't much support either .. his first words to me were everyone has to die sometime ... I slept downstairs with the dog on the sofa that night .. the dog never left me, like he knew ... stopped loving the old man from that day on ... and it's why he's the ex now ... 

So hold on hunny ... trust he's looking over you ... and trust in your feelings, whatever they are ... there's no right or wrong way to grieve ... we just do what it takes to get us through ..

Big hug Chrissie 

Thankyou! I hope he is, it is horrible and really hard going to nans, but Grandad would kick my *** if I didn’t look after her lol

exactly the same here well I am on the sofa with my cat lol, he needs to be more supportive or he will be the ex aswell. Thankyou so much for your kind words and support! I’ve got a photo of me and Grandad on my fire place and next to him a memory jar that I did for the wake, and now when I remember a random memory of me and Grandad I write it on a piece of paper and put it in the jar, ready for the really tough days that I know are soon to come.

thankyou Chrissie

shan x

Hi Shan .... maybe later, write a memory book about your grandad so you can pass on to your kids and show them what a lovely granddad you had.. l adore my granddaughter and I started a memory book since she was 1 and put all the things we've done and the funny things she said over the years so she will know when she grows just how much her nanny loved her ..

It's funny the things you forget and l can look back myself and smile at those memories ... glad your holding your nans hand now.. she may have memories of him she can share with you ... she must be missing him too .. l hope my granddaughter will remember me like you and your grandad..

Keep talking about him ... and he'll be right there in your heart ... no one can take that away ... it does get easier over time but you never stop missing them ... Chrissie

Shan

this site is full of amazing people, keep chatting away on here and you will find someone in the same position as yourself, but a little further down the line.

you are never alone on this site

happy thoughts

vatch