thanks for your sympathy, I am really sorry to bother you but I am really struggling to cope with my dad's death and I am fainting. It's my dad's birthday on Monday and I really need to be strong for Monday. I am going for surgery in 2-3 weeks and I must have a pre-operative assessment done also and I really need to be healthy and not fainting for that. What vca I do I have tried everything you told me to do. PLEASE HELP
I am sorry to hear you are struggling so much with your dad's death and that you are fainting also. Your dad's coming birthday on Monday must also be very much in your mind. I think you probably need professional help. I suggest you get in touch with your GP and explain everything you have been feeling recently, how you feel you haven't been able to cope since your dad's death and also make sure to mention the fainting episodes. I am sure they will be able to help you feel better both physically and emotionally. You are going through such a tough time and I think talking about it to a doctor will help a lot.
Best of luck with your surgery in 2-3 weeks time. I hope it goes well for you. Do go and see the doctor before to make sure you are in good form for the surgery. Fingers crossed you feel better soon!
Hi young man sorry about your dad you sound like your suffering. It all comes across that your trying to protect your mum but you know you dont have to do that.you need to look after yourself your gran was your dads mum and it may seem wrong to you at the moment but shes doing these things out of love for your dad to her and your auntie lights and flowers round his grave are just her she i just doing the best they know how to honer your dad even though its wrong to you. Remember though that these things on his grave can all be removed they are not permanent. talk to your mum about it if they keep coming into house ask your mum to change the locks laying on your dads ded was just a way of getting close to your dad we all do things to grieve in diffrent ways you sound to me like a chat to a bereavement counciler may help you get things off your chest person to person as we can only try and console you but you need more than that as you have taken all the worry on your young shoulders .so ask your mum if she can arrange it for you it may help her to.in the meantime if you go onto internet there are bereavment helplines you can ring if you live in uk there is the cruz bereavment helpline just give them a call tell them you need help and they will chat to you and you can talk to someome and get it all off your chest .you think at the moment your pain will never go but it will eventualy you must keep saying this to yourself it will get better and eventualy it will ttese fainting spells could be anxiaty but go see your dr they will help you to.paul
