Late cancer diagnosis chemo then stroke finaly sepsis death

Hi all. my sweetheart past away 3days ago.am distrought ime lucky to have had my wife liz for 5 years doesn't sound much but inlater life its much longer.anyway liz had cancer of unknown primery had late diagnosis so oncologist **** was great but only had small window of treatment it was decided to give liz two types of chemo gemcarbo on monday had chemo monday all went well had hope! Liz had no sickness but slept a lot wich seemds normal on Friday 10.30am had bad stroke paramedics were great got her into hospitle and scanned in 30 mins .time for drug stroke busting drug unfortunately was informed that because of chemotherapy she could not have them( gutted )also because of stroke no more chemo  we were both distrought worse to come because she was on azathioprine and had chemo both destroy immune system.on sat develped sepsis (the hospital **** were wonderful.) I couldn't believe how fast it spread so 4 am sunday she slipped away after i got there in time and whisperd to her dont worry sweetie u will be ok she made a small quiver like she heard me (i hope )then in five minutes she stopped breathing no rattle gasping .not ime writing this with tears in my eyes for her as we were so in love and had hoped we had a good few years together but with misdiagnosis and late treatment it was not to be so it shows that you must cherish your wife husband as we realy dont know how long we will have them .from hope on friday to her slipping away sunday sepsis took her in the end can you beleive it i cant two days and my wife friend love was gone the agony is unbearable they need to sort out the system and speed up system for diagnosis waiting for emergency scans misdiagnosis i main emergancescans taking weeks then having to ring to gee them realy is shameful shameful the drs **** should hang there heads in shame and they will know who theybecause good as they are suposed to be the best dr who procrastinates is no better than the worst one this. time it realy isnt the nhs its them.they will be at work today doing same procrastinating while ime at home greiving shame on them i hate them and  there blase attitude  im sure there ar others out the who think same excuse my so avoid that hospital ang go somewhere else  excuse and grammar as have mild dyslexia its two weeks now buried my wife monday but have begun to think the sepsis was sent to stop my liz from dying in great pain from the cancer it took her so quick and she realy died with her family and i at her bedside 

  • Hi Paul ... your welcome to p m with me ... and my partner said he's more then happy to chat ... Chrissie xx

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  • Thanks stef i can can tell u how antioxidants donate electrons to free radicals how a cat scan works down to the anialation of sub atomic particals pet i still can figure how to friend someone so am going to get my grandson to show me lol but many thanks

  • I think I can safely say that technology really can be the bane of our lives sometimes ;)

    I see Chrissie has said she sent you a friend request which may make things a bit easier for you now so I'm including a section we have on how to accept friend requests if you'd like to have another go before you grandson pops by to help.

    All the best, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi all.

    I know this is an old post from last year but This is exactly what has happend to my wife of 48, she was passed from Dr to Dr with stomach poblems last year and then in Feb we were told she had Stage 4 Lung cancer, sent home after 4 days and not told anything had to make a GP appointment and explain what we had been told, after 3 weeks she had liver failiure and after a month started targeted therapy AFATINIB Chemo  tablets, she had a stroke in May and that knocked her well back the Hospital LOST all her medication including the Cancer drug, so she had none for 3 weeks, luckily she was put back on it and started to recover from the dtroke, but since then has slipped well down into what could be start od Vascular dementia or god knows what, she needs 24 hour care, some one with her, our eldest has given up work and become daytime carer, i do evenings and weekends afetr work, she  can eat drink etc but needs help dressinf bathing tiolet etc, we have just sarted to get responces from the oncology team about the nwe symtoms  still waiting for stroke team to reply mcmillan sparodic but helpful when asked. I thought it was just us going through this horror.