Losing My Dad

Januray 2016 My Dad was diagnosed with stage one melanoma cancer. Over the past two years it rapidly spread to his lungs and legs and brain and sadly after fighting hard, he passed away on the 1st of December 2017. He was my best friend, mentor, and greatest support and the past five months have been incredibly hard to cope with. I was 17 and my brother was 15 and sister 12. I feel so lost without him and as mad as it might sound part of me feels like there is some outside chance he could be an spy or work for the government or something and would come walking through the door but 5 months on that seems very unlikely.... I dont know what to do without him and can not express how worried i am about losing my mum and dont know how i would be able to cope.

  • Hello Jonathan,

    As I noticed this is your first post with us and that you haven't yet received a reply I just wanted to stop by to say hello.

    I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.

    The feelings you describe will resonate with many here and I hope some of them will soon be along with a few words of support.

    You might have seen it already, but in case you haven't, there is a page from our website with tips on coping with grief which I hope can help you a little to deal with your feelings.

    Stay strong, Jonathan, and remember you're not alone, there is always someone here to listen.

    Best wishes,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi there Jonathan ... so sorry you waited so long for a reply and great Renata has spotted you ... sometimes someone slips down the line, and we miss it ... 

    Your so young, and life is really unfare ... but so glad you got siblings to help each other through ...

    I know after my mum died, I had the urge to go to her home... and in my head she'd still be there, at the cooker, making crispy chips ... I would sit outside just looking , and have a few tears ... and I'd call her phone number and put it down quickly as didn't want to hear another voice ... and for a long time, on waking up, just wished someone would tell me it was just a nightmare, and she hadn't died ...

    So your not alone ... it's all part of grieving, for someone we were blessed to have in our life's... so when it feels to painfull, remember the best memory you have, and relive it over and over, every word ... how you felt and do that till you find you smile, and it pushes those painfull feelings away ...

    So hold on in there ... bet he would be so proud of you ...  take care Chrissie xx