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My beautiful mum / best friend

Skyrock
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hi everyone 

The loss of my mum is crippling me, she been gone 7 months, the emptyness is very lonely, am very-closed with my emotions and struggling with everyone thinking am ok, but can’t bring myself to say am not, I have always been a coper, the strong one.

i miss the thing we did together, especially now the spring is here walking and coffees and lunch out we always did. 

I am thinking of have counciling has anyone tried this and feel it helped ?

 

thanks x

 

  • Hi Skyrock, 

    I'm sorry to read that you're struggling at the moment but I'm glad you're exploring different avenues that may help you at this time. I think a few members on the forum have tried counselling and hopefully some of them will be along soon to share their experiences with you. In the meantime I've included some information we have about it on our website.

    Do try and let your family or friends know that you're finding it tough at the moment. It can be hard opening up to people if you're not used to it but once you do you will be really glad you did as I'm sure they will do all that they can to support and help you through this.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator 

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    Hi. I understand. I lost my mum nearly 6 weeks ago and it hurts like hell. My sister is coping much better with it than me, possibly because it was me who found mum passed away unexpectedly. You must speak to someone about how you are feeling, even if it’s your doctor. You will feel better, having confided in someone. My doctor has referred me for counselling. I’m still off work and don’t think I can go back until I speak to a counsellor.

    Sending hugs

    xxx

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    Yes. Talking to someone and is a good start.  

    But it can take a long time and a lot of crying, and feeling angry as well. 

    When my dad died back in 1988, I blocked it for 7 years then it hit me so badly.  Years of talking therapy. 

    Get someone you trust and like.

    good luck x 

     

     

     

     

     

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    Hi Skyrock I too lost my beautiful mum and best friend over 18 yrs ago..please get some help and talk but it is still early days for your grief. I remember being told you never get over loosing a mum..just cherish all those lovely times you spent together. I wish I'd had therapy at that time of our loss. Sadly I'm now facing the same struggle of watching my dad loose his life to bloody cancer...I will try to be strong..take care and sending hugs.

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