I could use some help.

My nan has had cancer for a long time now. She has beaten it once and she’s never really been affected by it. A few weeks ago, she was so close to beating cancer they gave her a break off of her chemo. Withen a week, it had taken over her whole body. 2 days ago I was told she has 2-12 months to live. Yesterday I was told she had 2 weeks to live and today I’ve been told she has 2-6 days. She is now in a local hospice where I went to see her today. I’m struggling to cope and I know by the end of this week she will be dead. Could anyone help me with some ways to cope with the fact she is dying/ (depending on when you read this) the fact that she is dead. I  need help keeping calm.

Thanks, CaitlynB

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  • Hello caitlynB.  This must have all been a shock to you when you thought she was doing well not so long ago.  It is difficult enough to lose a loved family member even when you have been aware for some time that they do not have much time left.    I don't know if it will help but I am attaching some information from this website about grief some of which may make sense to you.

    about-cancer.cancerresearchuk.org/.../coping-with-grief

    If your gran has been fighting cancer for some time now it may be that her body just could not cope any longer.  So spend what time you have with her, tell her how you love her.  She may not respond but can still very likely hear you.    Best wishes.  Annie

  • Thank You very much. It took her 3 hours to properly die. She started not being able to breathe well etc. I will make sure to read the post you linked.

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