Hello jolley.  Welcome to this forum. I am sorry you lost your mum at a comparatively early age and so quickly too.  There are no time limits for grief an everyone goes through this in their own way.  I attach some information from this website.

www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../coping-with-grief

I have found that even when you think you are learning to live with the loss of a loved parent grief can suddenly come back and bite you.   I hope your family, friends and colleagues understand this and are supportive.  It helps if other people understand what you are going through.  My mum was 70 when she died of cancer and I thought that even that was too young in this day and age as she had still been getting about and enjoying her life before becoming ill.

I imagine that for most people there is no sudden cut-off point for grieving.  As well as feeling sadness you will hopefully relive happy times and smile about something that you enjoy.  If you feel that your grieving is affecting your ability to copy with everyday life you might find it helpful to talk tp a counsellor.  Cruse Bereavement Care is the most well-known charity who provides help with grieving although I know there can be a wait to obtain counselling as they are in demand.   Their Freefone number is 0808 808 1677.  There is however another charity called The Loss Foundation who provide help to anyone grieving for the loss of a loved one to cancer.  I am attaching their website as that is where I have found the information about them.  Their tel. no. is 0300 200 4012.  I have looked up the costs of 0300 numbers as I was not sure about them and I read "The law says that calls to 0300 numbers must be included as part of a customers "free minutes" package and any other call cost reduction package.  All UK telephone operators including mobile phone and landline operators all comply to this law."

www.thelossfoundation.org/

Best wishes.  Annie

Hello jolley.  Welcome to this forum. I am sorry you lost your mum at a comparatively early age and so quickly too.  There are no time limits for grief an everyone goes through this in their own way.  I attach some information from this website.

www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../coping-with-grief

I have found that even when you think you are learning to live with the loss of a loved parent grief can suddenly come back and bite you.   I hope your family, friends and colleagues understand this and are supportive.  It helps if other people understand what you are going through.  My mum was 70 when she died of cancer and I thought that even that was too young in this day and age as she had still been getting about and enjoying her life before becoming ill.

I imagine that for most people there is no sudden cut-off point for grieving.  As well as feeling sadness you will hopefully relive happy times and smile about something that you enjoy.  If you feel that your grieving is affecting your ability to copy with everyday life you might find it helpful to talk tp a counsellor.  Cruse Bereavement Care is the most well-known charity who provides help with grieving although I know there can be a wait to obtain counselling as they are in demand.   Their Freefone number is 0808 808 1677.  There is however another charity called The Loss Foundation who provide help to anyone grieving for the loss of a loved one to cancer.  I am attaching their website as that is where I have found the information about them.  Their tel. no. is 0300 200 4012.  I have looked up the costs of 0300 numbers as I was not sure about them and I read "The law says that calls to 0300 numbers must be included as part of a customers "free minutes" package and any other call cost reduction package.  All UK telephone operators including mobile phone and landline operators all comply to this law."

www.thelossfoundation.org/

Best wishes.  Annie

Hiya Annieliz. I'm very sorry to hear about your mum. 70 is also too soon to be taken. Thank you so much for responding and the advice attached. I've always thought going to talk to someone wasn't my thing or wouldn't help, but I really feel now that I need to at least try. My family and friends are brilliant, but I feel horrible putting on them as they have their own issues, including the loss of mum. Thank you again xxx