I miss my dad

Hey, I’m hoping to find some help,advice,support from this group. 

My dad passed away last June, it was quite sudden and I think I chose to ignore signs that he was giving me,even from his hospital bed.I asked how he felt,he said so tired that he couldn’t begin to explain. He gave me a hug and told me he loved me. Not unusual for my dad but I now believe he was saying goodbye and I just didn’t see it.  

I feel like I’m coping less as time goes on. Time I had with my dad is further away and I hate it. My husband has the total opposite coping mechanisms to me and it’s very apparent that he cant cope with my grief, nor me his. As a result of this our marriage is crumbling. I can’t cope with it all and feel like it’s my  lack of coping with grief that is to blame.

Any advice? 

  • Hi there , no two people grieve the same and this in itself causes added stress ... maybe try McMillan and ask them if they have counselling in your area ... how l cope more is by picturing that person back just watching and what they would say to you ... I knew my mum would have been so sad to see me keep crying , as she loved laughter ... so l tried to do things that would make her proud ...

    It is really hard on partners when someone grieves 24 / 7 ... I still have tears but then get back on track and get on as best I can .... it's all about balance ... l hope you can find your piece ... and take care .. Chrissie x