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I miss my mum

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it’s been 7 months since I lost my mum and I feel worse now than I did when she first passed 

I get such bad mood swings, constantly feel I have a dark cloud over me 

I get such bad headaches where I can be in bed for days and started to get anxiety 

grief is a terrible thing, and I just wish I could have my mum back I miss her so much each day 

I can’t watching any thing to do with cancer, or hear the adverts 

I just wish she was still here. We recently found out my aunt has cancer too, and I really want to be there for her but I’m so scared x

 

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    Hi Suzy ... There is no time limit on grief and no one grieves exactly the same ... And in my case I accept my mum is not comming back, but l will never stop missing her ... There are so many on here who's mums or dad's are gone, there's not many that don't know what that's like ...

    What helped me, was thinking what would mum say if she could see me today .... Sad , proud , happy , and l know she was full of life, kind to everyone , and loved to see us laughing .... So that's what works for me ... Everyone has to find something that helps their heart through this sad time ...

    But your mum lives in you ... She's part of you ... She made you ... So look in the mirror and she's there .. sending you a vertual hug ... Chrisie x

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    Hi Suzy, 

    i Just lost my mum on Friday. I can’t comprehend my life without her. It’s hurts so much and the pain is suffocating. They are such big parts of our lives and when they are gone there is a void. But like Chriss has said she lives on in you and you are a big part of her. I know I am of mum mum and that I look like her which I am so happy about. I am having a baby in August that mum new about and was do desperate to meet, this breaks my heart that she will never be part of the baby’s life and that I won’t be able to ask her for advice when I need it. I guess what I’m trying to say is your mum is your mum and you need to grieve and grieve hard. I gave been told the pain eases, which I am hopeful for. Your mum would want you to live life I’m sure, and she will live on through you. 

     

    Take care

     

    Vicky

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    Hi Vicky... just a little thought ... my mum never saw her grand kids on my side ... and l was so sad as she so loved my boys ... so what l did, was take their babies to her place, where her ashes were ... and hope she looked down on each one as they came along and just told her all about them  ... 

    On fools an horses l remember Dell taking his baby to the window and looking up an talking to his mum ... it was so touching at the time ... but you never know ... so hope you find your piece to Vicky ... big hug to both of you ...

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