Hi just want 2 say I’m sorry 4 u loss my mother passed away 2/8/17 I 2 know what u going through I feel same I have my good and bad days . I hate going up the cemetery because very time I do go up it all makes it real my heart broken . I had my mother birthday on the 23 jan that was hard I just miss her so much . I 2 can’t face people I try my best 2 avoid people I got my niece engagement meal 2 nite and I don’t want 2 go because everyone be there and my mother wouldn’t it’s so hard . I’m sorry 4 rambling I real can’t give advice because I’m in the same boat as u take care x 

Hello midlothian.  So sorry to hear about your mum and how difficult it is for you to cope.  Grief takes different forms for all of us.  Sometimes we wonder how the world can go on with everyone else doing things normally.

There is no time limit for grieving ,  It doesn't just suddenly stop.  What I found happens is that very slightly and hardly noticeably there are moments when we are no totally consumed with sorrow about the loss of a loved one.  It varies from person to person and there is no wrong or right way,  Gradually we can start to smile when we think about our loved one and think about all the good times we had.

It sounds to me as though you might be able to use a help to get you through this.  Nothing wrong with your feelings but I don't like to think of you being as upset as you describe.  I don't know how much you communicate your feelings with other family member - or how they themselves are coping.  You have made a good start by coming here and telling us how you are feeling.   Many people posting here have lost their loved ones and need to share their feelings because other people here will understand and want to help. So please keep this up if you find it helps you.  Also you might like to try speaking to the good people at Cruse Bereavement Service (Freefone 0808 808 1677).  I have had no connection with them but they are well-established and I have heard that they are very nice and understand grief very well.  But even if you don't want to do that please keep telling us how you are doing.

Hi, I am so sorry for your loss and I can feel your pain.

My Mum passed away in October 2017 and like you my life has totally changed. In fact, I have totally changed. Losing a loved one leaves such a big gap and it seems like all your relationships change as well. After the initial shock, I started isolating myself as I didn't want to see anyone, including my friends. To be honest, I think quite a few of them also avoided me as they didn't know what to say. I think it's the first time in my life I have felt such sadness and loneliness. 

I  have good(ish) and bad days, but being on here with people who understand and care really helps me. Remember that you are not alone. Talking about your mum here, talking about how you feel can make a difference so well done for taking that first step. 

I'm sending you hugs. Take care.

Xx

Hi, I am sorry your mum has passed. Mine also passed 22 days ago. I was her carer, daughter and best friend and I feel totally lost. I stil can't believe how quick it was as she was only diagnosed 5 months ago. Cancer is a cruel heartbreaking disease for which I hope they find a cure very soon. Some days I don't want to talk to anyone as the pain of loosing her is unbearable. But I truly believe she is watching everyday and is no longer suffering which is a small comfort. I try and take each day at a time. When you have loved someone for so long, I should imagine it will take a long time to come to terms with. I wish you all the best for the future and remember you are not alone. Lots of love Joey xx