Hi just want 2 say I’m sorry 4 u loss my mother passed away 2/8/17 I 2 know what u going through I feel same I have my good and bad days . I hate going up the cemetery because very time I do go up it all makes it real my heart broken . I had my mother birthday on the 23 jan that was hard I just miss her so much . I 2 can’t face people I try my best 2 avoid people I got my niece engagement meal 2 nite and I don’t want 2 go because everyone be there and my mother wouldn’t it’s so hard . I’m sorry 4 rambling I real can’t give advice because I’m in the same boat as u take care x 

Hi, I am so sorry for your loss and I can feel your pain.

My Mum passed away in October 2017 and like you my life has totally changed. In fact, I have totally changed. Losing a loved one leaves such a big gap and it seems like all your relationships change as well. After the initial shock, I started isolating myself as I didn't want to see anyone, including my friends. To be honest, I think quite a few of them also avoided me as they didn't know what to say. I think it's the first time in my life I have felt such sadness and loneliness. 

I  have good(ish) and bad days, but being on here with people who understand and care really helps me. Remember that you are not alone. Talking about your mum here, talking about how you feel can make a difference so well done for taking that first step. 

I'm sending you hugs. Take care.

Xx

 Hi. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. My mother passed 16 days ago. It still feels surreal sometimes. Some days I do ok. Others I feel lost and alone. I have family and friends that are supporting. I don't think that people being supportive is enough to overcome the grief sometimes though. I think it just takes time. Try to remember the good memories. I truly feel my mother is watching over me still, and that helps me. The bond I have with my mother is one I don't think I'll ever have again with anyone else. I think that is a good and a bad thing. I read this the other day and it helped to ease the pain for me a bit.                                               "There’s nothing good that comes out of the death of someone you love, but I have learned this: the magnitude and bottomlessness of the pain you feel is a testament to the love you shared. And while I don’t ever expect to arrive at a point in life where I’m alright with the fact that my mother is gone, I know that I am so, so lucky to have loved and been loved that much by anyone".                                                                                                              I hope with time your pain and grief become easier to handle. Until then though just remember your mother would want you to carry on. One foot forward, one day at a time. 

Hi, I am sorry your mum has passed. Mine also passed 22 days ago. I was her carer, daughter and best friend and I feel totally lost. I stil can't believe how quick it was as she was only diagnosed 5 months ago. Cancer is a cruel heartbreaking disease for which I hope they find a cure very soon. Some days I don't want to talk to anyone as the pain of loosing her is unbearable. But I truly believe she is watching everyday and is no longer suffering which is a small comfort. I try and take each day at a time. When you have loved someone for so long, I should imagine it will take a long time to come to terms with. I wish you all the best for the future and remember you are not alone. Lots of love Joey xx