Hello Amanda.  I am sorry you are feeling so rough.  While there is no time limit placed on grieving - everyone reacts differently - if your grief is interfering with your ability to cope with your daily life again you do perhaps need a bit of help to get your through this.  I don't think there is ever a point when you can say "I have got over this" but learn to get along with the sad memories and think more about the happy times that went before them.  I had my only son after my mum died of cancer and yes I was sad that she never met him (I put their photos together - it was the best I could do!).  Have you considered giving a phone call to Cruse Bereavement Care (Freefone 0808 808 1677) - they have a wealth of experience and I have seen people on this forum tell how helpful they were.  Worth a try? There are times in our lives when we all need a bit of help as it can all seem too much for us.  We are only human.