Lost my mum :(

Hi I have been reading loads of posts on here to try and find more understanding of the same grief am going through and what peoples thoughts are. It all started with my mum in and out of doctors and hospitals for years and years and mum got told chest infection to maybe copd. She had so many scans and in the middle of march they told my mum she had pneumonia it showed on a scan now 2 weeks later my mum felt even worse and could hardly breathe and got took to hospital again which they told her it was a lung collapse due to them finding small cell stage four lung cancer. We were so angry especially my mum because she was fobbed off every week by her doctors. She done everything to slow it down to chemo palliative treatment to radiotherapy pallitive treatment god love her. She even told the oncologist about pain in her head after chemo and they done a scan and told her it hadn't spread to the brain and she got a phone call 3 days later to say it has they made a mistake she had a hidden brain tumor apparently so my mum had cancer spreading all over her and still the hurt and anger u could see in her eyes. I lost my my mum just before six months of diagnosis and I feel like I have had my heart stamped all over. I don't think I will ever get over seeing her be so strong then the last two weeks deteriorated to her death. Sorry for my long story guys xx

  • I am so sorry to hear this. It sounds like your mum was a strong, determind woman, which I am sure served her well. Grief is a strange thing and can make us fell strong emotions such as anger. Ofter we have questions...what if's. I hope you find some peace and are one day able to remember her with a smile. xx

  • So sorry about your brave mum.    Try not to let your frustration over the way events unfolded get in the way of grieving for and remembering all the great things about your wonderful mum.  Sadly errors do happen even with the best equipment; people can be fallible.  I accept that it is easy for me to give this advice and I don't know how I would cope in your shoes.  But don't destroy your own peace of mind indefinitely. 

    My mum died of cancer some years ago now.  As her health gradually failed it was tragic and so painful; it is normal that we should feel how awful it was.  But I hope that eventually the worst memories will fade and you will remember your wonderful mum and be able to smile.