Christmas will never be the same

I’ve only just turnt 15 and my dad died suddenly the beginning of may I miss him soo much that I can’t even cry and it’s my first Christmas without him and I need help I don’t know what to do I’ve o my been to school for a few weeks since then and I need advice on what to do 

  • A warm welcome to our forum, Skye11.

    I'm very sorry to hear about your dad, what a difficult time this must be for you.

    When you feel ready for it, you might want to take a look at this website called riprap where you can find support for teenagers who have lost a parent due to cancer and I hope that can help you to find ways to cope with your loss.

    I hope this helps, Skye11, and please know we are here for you if you need someone to listen.

    Best wishes,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hello Skye.  Your first Christmas without your father must be a bit worrying and I hope and expect that you and your family will find it a mixture of sadness and happiness.  Sadness because your dad is not here to share Christmas unlike previous years and happiness because you still have each other and can talk and laugh about previous Christmases when your dad was with you.  15 is young to lose a parent; it is a time of your life when lots of things are happening and when it would have been so good to talk about them with your dad.  I know that other people cannot wave a magic wand and make you feel better; over Christmas families who have lost someone feel that the rest of the world is happy while they are suffering.  From reading the letters in this forum I know there will be many people who will find Christmas difficult.  Make your dad a part of Christmas by talking about him and perhaps putting up extra photos of him.  My best wishes to you.