Mum passed away-not sure how to grieve

hi there, I’m very new to this. My mum passed away 3 months ago from secondary breast cancer, just 2 1/2 weeks after diagnosis.  She had an awful time with ascites, jaundice etc. She was only 52.  I have two young children 4 and 1, their dad works away a lot so it is mostly just me and them.  I feel I’ve barely even grieved for my mum, it’s been a whirlwind ever since, with my gran dying 6 weeks after my mum from cancer too, having to juggle going back to work after a years maternity and some sick due to Mum being ill! I guess my question is, has anyone grieved later on for their lost loved one, some days are better than others but everyday I wake up and my hearts so heavy, but I’ve never really broken down in tears, the way I have watched others grieve for my mum.  I miss her unbelievably and if I could do anything to bring her back I’d be doing it, but is this normal? Can people react the way I am? I feel people must think I’m cold hearted but inside my heart really is broken! 

Parents
  • Hi there, 

    Im so so sorry to hear about your mum and grandma. My mum passed away nearly a month ago now due to bowel cancer and im still in disbelief. You are completely normal. We all feel them feelings though, I certainly still have that. I wrote a blog post a few days ago as I find it easier to write things down than say out loud to someone. If youre up for it, id love for you to give it a read? I wrote it to help myself but also to help others going through the grieving process. 

     

    lifeofgeeblog.wordpress.com/.../ 

     

    If you ever need a chat im here to talk x 

Reply
  • Hi there, 

    Im so so sorry to hear about your mum and grandma. My mum passed away nearly a month ago now due to bowel cancer and im still in disbelief. You are completely normal. We all feel them feelings though, I certainly still have that. I wrote a blog post a few days ago as I find it easier to write things down than say out loud to someone. If youre up for it, id love for you to give it a read? I wrote it to help myself but also to help others going through the grieving process. 

     

    lifeofgeeblog.wordpress.com/.../ 

     

    If you ever need a chat im here to talk x 

Children
  • Georgina your blog is so good! It really makes sense seeing it written down, and for me it’s exactly how I would describe it all! I suppose I just felt everyone else seemed to cry so much but I didn’t, but I hate to show too much emotion anyway before my mum passed! It’s the little things I took for granted and my god I miss her. I have two little ones who are getting excited for Santa and I’m dreading my first ever Christmas without her here! It’s such a horrible feeling but I know there are many of us out there feeling this way.  X