Hi Skyrock,

I am so sorry to hear about how you are feeling.

You have nothing to chastise yourself for. If her doctors couldn't detect that anything was amiss until it was too late, how were you to know any better>

You placed your trust in them and they let you down. It is not always easy to detect some cancers and I suspect that this must have been so in your Mum's case.

I felt like you after my own Mum died. She had been in a hospice at the end and the treatment that she received was abysmal. After she passed, I let this eat away at me for weeks, until I realised that I had to let go of these feelings, because it was doing nobody any good and I knew that these emotions would never bring her back. After that I gradually began to accept what had happened.

With my Mum we had twelve years from her initial diagnosis. You only had less than a month. This was not nearly long enough to come to terms with her diagnosis, never mind her death. Have you considered counselling? This is not for everyone, but some people do find it helpful.

I feel for you and wish that I could do more, but sadly I can't. Do you have any family or friends who you can confide in?

Thinking of you and sending huge hugs.

Jolamine xx

Hi Skyrock,

I am so sorry to hear about how you are feeling.

You have nothing to chastise yourself for. If her doctors couldn't detect that anything was amiss until it was too late, how were you to know any better>

You placed your trust in them and they let you down. It is not always easy to detect some cancers and I suspect that this must have been so in your Mum's case.

I felt like you after my own Mum died. She had been in a hospice at the end and the treatment that she received was abysmal. After she passed, I let this eat away at me for weeks, until I realised that I had to let go of these feelings, because it was doing nobody any good and I knew that these emotions would never bring her back. After that I gradually began to accept what had happened.

With my Mum we had twelve years from her initial diagnosis. You only had less than a month. This was not nearly long enough to come to terms with her diagnosis, never mind her death. Have you considered counselling? This is not for everyone, but some people do find it helpful.

I feel for you and wish that I could do more, but sadly I can't. Do you have any family or friends who you can confide in?

Thinking of you and sending huge hugs.

Jolamine xx