Did you go and see your mum? 
my mum passed last Monday and now I am in the same position as you- I don't know whether to go and see my mum in the chapel of rest or not - I'm scared she won't look like her and once I've seen her I can't unsee her. 
I miss her so much and I'm in such denial I'm so scared 

Hey! Did you go to the chapel of rest? My Dad passed 3 weeks ago and it's his funeral in 6 days. I'm really torn about whether to go and see him at the chapel of rest. I wasn't with him when he passed- he waited until we had all left the hospice however I was back there within half an hour and was given time alone with him to say goodbye. I'm not sure if that was enough for me or whether I should go and see him again?

I went to see my mother in law 8 years ago and it was incredibly traumatic. The amount of drugs she was on had made her look totally different and it literally traumatised me for about 2 years. 
 

But (and no disrespect to my mother in law) but this is MY dad. My absolute hero. 
im so torn xx

I couldn't do it - I got a family member to take a photo so if I am ready one day I can see the clothes I dressed her in and see how beautiful she looked- but no I didn't go- my auntie said she looked different and I wouldn't be able to handle it seeing as my mental health declined when at mum was diagnosed and I was so close to her.

she waited till I left the hospice when she passed too- apparently it's very common it's like our loved ones know we've gone and don't want to traumatise us more .

it is entirely up to you but if you think it will be too much then it probably isn't a good idea x

sorry about your loss 

I couldn't do it - I got a family member to take a photo so if I am ready one day I can see the clothes I dressed her in and see how beautiful she looked- but no I didn't go- my auntie said she looked different and I wouldn't be able to handle it seeing as my mental health declined when at mum was diagnosed and I was so close to her.

she waited till I left the hospice when she passed too- apparently it's very common it's like our loved ones know we've gone and don't want to traumatise us more .

it is entirely up to you but if you think it will be too much then it probably isn't a good idea x

sorry about your loss 

I think I will see how I feel on Wednesday. I'm going to drop off some bits for his coffin so I think I'll see how I feel. 
 

How are you doing now? Xx