Sorry to hear about your mum.

If I was in your position. I would, if you can, go back and see your mum it would let you see that she is at rest and peace this would be the last image of her you will see rather than her struggling. 

x

Thank you Linda. 

I am so torn if I should or not. I am struggling with not knowing where she is. Surely that can't just be it? I wish I had more faith in god and believed she is watching me and waiting for me. 

Do you think she is? X

Thank you Chris.

will she look like her? Or will she look like she did when she passed? 

I'm  so scared x

It is hard. I lost my mum a number of years ago and though I was scared to visit her in the undertakers, I was glad I did. I think you will regret it if you don't go and see your mum for the last time before the funeral. 

I am not religious but always feel that they are looking down on you.

x

I think most undertakers do a marvellous job, in my judgement.

Should you go I think you will not regret it.

x

Hi Chrissie

I was very firm in my decision of not wanting to see dad after he passed, then I took man and my sister, they went in to see him and I felt sad that I wouldn't get another chance to say goodbye.  After they came out I decided to go see him on my own and I was glad I did.  He looked so much more peaceful than when he passed.

Xx

I lost.my beloved MUM 2 years ago she didn't die a peaceful death and I went to the chapel of rest to see her unfortunately she didnt look like her but I was glad I went because to me it was like I was show I g her respect none of my brother's would go and although it was very distressing for me I am glad I went 

On saying that you don't have to go I didn't think any less of my brother's for not going 

Thank you.

i think I will go and see how I feel when I arrive. I would lik to write her a letter and put a teddy I brought her with her.  It's such a hard decision and not something I have ever thought about before. 

I am worried if I don't go I will regret it. But worried if I do ho she won't look like my mum and will make everything worse x

Hello. Let me say that I am very sorry that you find yourself having to face making a decision. I do feel that it is a very personal thing you have to decide and rest assured nobody will have the right to say that not going to see your late Mother one last time is wrong. There is no right or wrong thing to do. All I would say to you is go with what your heart tells you. Yes, you might find it upsetting seeing her one last time, but if your last memory is uncomfortable and upsetting to you, you might find that seeing her one last time at peace is somehow comforting. I recently lost my Partner to this awful disease. His passing was a gentle one but my dominant memory was of his last moments. After a great deal of thought, I did decide to visit him in the Chapel of Rest at the Funeral Director's premises and though it was a very unhappy occasion, I felt having the opportunity to see him at peace and rest and importantly to be able to say things to him was something I wouold have bitterly regretted not taking. It was then that I asked the Funeral Director if it would be possible to have a lock of his hair, and that was arranged for me. I now have that one little part of him which I treasure and will keep with me for the rest of my life.