My dad is about to die

As of currently, my father(54) is in the hospital dying of stage 4 kidney cancer. I myself am only 15 and am finding it incredibly hard to cope with this. I have never experienced death on a personal level, until now. He has been very sick for two years, so this is not unexpected. Me and my family have been preparing for the worst but no amount of preparation can really prepare somebody for this. I never had a chance to have a final talk with him about everything, as when he got admitted to the hospital I was writing my final exams, and therefore was not informed of his situation. When I did get to the hospital, he was on large amounts of morphine and completely out of it. Now he is unconscious and it seems he will remain that way until his passing. I have an amazing family, friend and boyfriend who are all here for me, but I still find this all extremely hard, especially due to my age and how little time I have had with him. Is there anybody who can relate to this? If so, any and all suggestions on how to cope would be very much appreciated, thank you.

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  • Dear HB

    I just want to say for your age you are such a brace young women and for you to post your thoughts and feelings here takes such courage.

    I was with my auntie when she died on Sunday, I am 31 and never experienced being with someone when they die. 

    She was unconscious most of the time towards the end but I still sat and talked to her about all the normal things.

    Are you still able to go and sit with him? Just go and hold his hand, people have always told me that the hearing is the last thing to go, I don't know if that's true or not but that did give me comfort.

    good luck with your exams and please do keep talking about how your feeling x

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  • Dear HB

    I just want to say for your age you are such a brace young women and for you to post your thoughts and feelings here takes such courage.

    I was with my auntie when she died on Sunday, I am 31 and never experienced being with someone when they die. 

    She was unconscious most of the time towards the end but I still sat and talked to her about all the normal things.

    Are you still able to go and sit with him? Just go and hold his hand, people have always told me that the hearing is the last thing to go, I don't know if that's true or not but that did give me comfort.

    good luck with your exams and please do keep talking about how your feeling x

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