Hi i have just lost my husband to cancer after a 4 year fight ,it's horrendous you do your best to look after them, but you know there going to die it's heartbreaking,my husband spent his last 11 days in Trinity hospice he had been in there 3 times previous,so they knew him in there, i just knew time he wouldn't come out, he was poorly most of the 4 year fight, i thought i was having a breakdown at 1 point, i don't know where i got the strength from, inwasnt eating or sleeping but you just get on with it ,it was heartbreaking watching him suffer for so long ,he was a amazing husband and dad & grandad, we all miss him it's still very raw (3 wks) it just feels empty in the home without him ,we was together for 40 years so I'm struggling ,but trying to be strong ,i know what other people are going through who's lost there husband's ,my life will never be the same without him ,you stay strong Hun that's all we can do xx

Hi sue,

I am also very sorry to hear about your husband and offer my sincere sympathy.

Somehow or other we struggle with the end stages of this disease and gain strength to get us through the nightmare.I think that we often rely on Adrenaline to survive. For all we know that the end is nigh, we often fail to prepare ourselves for what happens after our loved one has passed on.

There are many things to keep you busy up to the funeral. After the funeral is over there is a hiatus where there is very little to do. You have been kept on the go for the past 4 years with visiting your husband and catering for his needs, now you need to make tme for all the things you had to put on hold.

What ages are your grandchildren and do they live nearby? It is often by immersing ourselves in the younger generations that we find ourselves gradually learning to cope with living alone.

I hope and pray that you will come to terms with all that has happened and you will soon begin to accept you new situation.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi I just lost my husband on March1st to lung cancer stage 4, he was at home till he passed away the loneliness, and emptiness is unbearable.

Hi LOST123, 

I just saw your post and wanted to offer my sincerest condolences on the passing of your husband to lung cancer in March.

As you've discovered there are many members here who know what you are going through at the moment so do keep chatting to others here whenever you feel lonely as there will always be someone here to listen and support you at this difficult time. There is another discussion I've included for you to have a look at as well as information on our website about coping with grief.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi LOST123, 

I just saw your post and wanted to offer my sincerest condolences on the passing of your husband to lung cancer in March.

As you've discovered there are many members here who know what you are going through at the moment so do keep chatting to others here whenever you feel lonely as there will always be someone here to listen and support you at this difficult time. There is another discussion I've included for you to have a look at as well as information on our website about coping with grief.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator