Hello andyh,

On behalf of all the team here at Cancer Chat, I want to offer our sincere condolences on the passing of your wife

I can't begin to imagine what a difficult time this is for you and I hope you will find some comfort here on Cancer Chat.

There is a link from our website I want to share with you with information on coping with grief here. I hope this helps.

Thinking of you at this difficult time,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello Andy,

What a terrible thing to have happened to you and your dear wife. I am so sorry for your loss. Life for you right night now is a nightmare. 

Try and spend time with any family or friends nearby. Cry as much as you need to. Sleep if you can, and wrap up well and go outside and walk every day. Walking is good I find. 

My dad is dying from prostate cancer and my mothers world is falling apart. His wish is to die at home and she is nursing him 24/7 by herself.(my sister and I who are in our 50;s) each are doing all we can to help. 

My mother in law died suddenly last sept, and father in law went into nursing home with dementia in Jan after attempt to end his life. 

I think Andy you must take life one day at a time. Don't expect too much from yourself as its early days yet. If you have a job then go to work, as it will act as a distraction. 

This is a totally new experience for you, cancer is a horrible thing. It has taken your wife from you, but it cannot take your memories, hang onto them. 

Time is a good healer, I know that's not much consolation right now. Look after yourself and keep the chin up. 

You are going to get through this.

take care.

xx

So sorry about your sudden loss. Losing your wife so suddenly must be so painful that its almost unbelievable. You will be in shock at the moment. Cancer is so cruel. I feel that only time can help you cope with the loss of your wife. Maybe talk to Macmillan or close family or friends that knew and cared about your wife. We all deal with bereavement differently and at the moment you are probably feeling isolated and so alone at the moment. My thoughts and prayers are with you.