Hi, my name is Jane and I lost my Dad to cancer at the end of last week... i am not sure how to cope... I'm overwhelmed and would just like to hear how other people have coped... I'm sorry to ask as it's so close to everybodies heart xx
Hi Jane
I really don't know what to say other than I feel your pain xx it's so difficult when you lose a loved one and especially someone that knows you inside and out ..! As time goes on things do get a little easier but it will always be tough xx it's 9 years ago that I lost my mum and I often think of her especially when I want to talk xx
Hello Jane, just wanted to say how sorry I am. There is nothing I can say that will take the pain away at the moment, but please know that you are in my thoughts. I do know how you feel, I am 72 now but still remember that pain of losing my mum and dad.
Take care of yourself sweetheart, sending a big hug.
Hi lost my dad on the 10th Dec really struggling not sure how I am still functioning and then last week found out mom has cancer and not sure how I'm going to cope if we lose mom aswell x
i am so sorry for your loss. It's just awful. I suppose all you can do is just take one day at a time. Take your time. It's a tough time right now for you.
My dad is in the latter stages of prostate cancer and doesn't have much time left. We are all human and living and dying is all part of life. Hang in there Jane , I know there will be brighter days ahead for you and for all of us.
Hi iost dad six months ago. Still find it very hard but know he was struggling and in pain and is now at peace. Mum not coping so have to be strong for her. I can only say take a day at a time its only way xx
Hi, I lost my dad to metastatic prostate cancer 4-5 weeks ago, if you wanna chat, you know where I am and I guess I kinda know what you're going through. X
Hi Jane, I lost my dad to cancer 4-5 weeks ago, I seemed to have been worse this week compared to how I was initially after it happened, I guess it's cus it's now back to the routine of life. I've been back at work but felt so raw and emotional and teary xx
Hi, sorry to hear about your loss. It's not fair. It is probably very very raw for you still. My dad had his last scans on Monday, and was told the cancer has spread to his liver. He and my 77 year old mother travelled home on a three hour train journey. It's so depressing waiting for the inevitable. And so hard to make cherful conversation. I don't know which is worse , a quick sudden death or a slow lingering one. All of a sudden I am having flashbacks of my childhood and then suddenly return to reality of what is happening now, it's like a bad dream. And the odd thing is life goes on all around and no one really cares. My dad is resigned to the fact that death is imminent, but my mother is heartbroken. She will never get over this. I hope you are doing things to distract yourself from your dads passing. One day at a time I guess.
Hi yes, my dad lasted just under a year with his prostate cancer, which spread to his lungs, spine, and then in the end his bowels and liver. He seemed ok throughout the year, until the last few weeks when he just went downhill and then he was gone. And it seems like one minute they were there and the next minute they are gone. Unfortunately I'll never forget how he was during his last few days and weeks. But luckily when I think about him and picture him, I think back to how he was beforehand. I have loads of photos of him which helps, even photos of him from 10/20 years ago and it helps to remind you of all your childhood and adulthood with him. I also love hearing stories about him but at the same time it makes me wish I spent those times with him too. In other ways it feels like he's just gone away on a long holiday. It's been tough returning to work but it's also helped. I worry about my mom as she's now all alone at home during the day time. But she seems ok. What I found really hard was a few days after he died, people were constantly asking us out for family meals etc but we didn't want to as you physically notice the empty chair at gatherings and it feels like you're celebrating. Whereas I can cope with having odd family members round and just watching a film. I'm slowly starting to see my friends again but in a 1:1 setting, not as a group. I can't help but feel guilty and I just feel too miserable for company. How are you doing now? Thoughts are with you
