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Char_rahc
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Hello everyone, I posted here a few days ago detail how my father had been given a few months. Unfortunately his fight didn't last that long, he passed away yesterday around 11am. 

I was there holding his hands when he passed and I'm so glad I was. It was the strangest thing he had pushed all night and then seemed to decline quickly after my sister and I arrived, as if he waited for us. 

Yesterday when we left the hospice I was filled with sadness and anger. I came home and cried the hardest I have in years. Went to sleep for a few hours and woke up relieved. 

Relieved for him, he'd struggled for so long. He'd been fighting not only the cancer but early onset dementia also. His whole life for the past few months was filled with confusion and pain. Now he's free. 

I'm sad that he passed so young at 58 and will miss him so much everyday. I just wish there was some way I could know for sure that he is at peace. He looked peaceful yesterday after taking his final breaths. You could see all the pain leave his face. 

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    I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad in November and also had that twin feeling of being so sad but also relieved that he wasn't suffering any more. I don't believe in an afterlife, but that's actually reassuring as it means I know he is at peace because he isn't there anymore. All the energy that was him has gone into everything else, so he's just part of the universe now. I find that quite peaceful, maybe a bit weirdly?

    I'm wishing you lots of strength to get through this. You will have good days and bad days I am sure. It really hit me about a month after my dad's death when something on tv sparked me off. So don't be surprised if your grief comes in waves rather than just in one big lump.

    Take care of yourself. xx

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    Thank you for your responce Amy. I am the same of you and don't believe in an afterlife per say, although I do believe some things are unexplained and interesting surrounding death ect.

    Today has been different from yesterday so already I can sense each day will be different. Right now it seems to be good and bad hours in a day, one things for sure I can't take my mind of him. 

    Thank you so much for your advice, I really appreciate it :) 

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    So sorry for your loss.    I lost my dad four months ago and it's been hard.     I was same though relieved he was no longer suffering and just slipped away with all his family by his side.        I am still doing a day at a time as is my mum and sister.      I think it's the only way to do it.       I do still believe is he all around me and watching over me and it comforts me to believe that.      Both myself and dad attended the spiritualist church and truly believe in life after death and it does comfort me.         Everyone is different and at this time you will be sad, numb, relieved and a whole load of other emotions, my best advice is take each day as it comes and remember we are all here for you and know exactly how you feel x

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    Hi Char_rahc
    I'm sorry for your loss. You can be sure that your father is well now. In fact he is now free from all the suffering that the physical body has imposed upon his soul. No more pain, mental confusion, or anguish. I'm sure he waited to have you and your sister by his side and then left in peace. And the most important thing
    is that the bond between you remains.

    Take care!

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