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how to prepare myself?

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Hi,

i'm laura and i'm 14, my mum started going downhill around 6 weeks ago, 2 weeks ago it got to the point where she could barely walk, eat, go up/down stairs, get up off the sofa and when she fell over she couldn't get back up. 2 days ago she got told she had 2 months left at best. me and my dad are relatively strong people, however every night we cry together.. we don't know what to do without mum. she does everything, and she means everything to us. she's the person i tell all my secrets, the person who lets me get all my emotion out, i tell her everything - she's the only person who understands.. it may seem silly to ask, but how can i prepare myself for her death?

thank you..

laura x 

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    Hi Laura, I agree with others that you can't really prepare yourself and it can be best to focus on the moment rather than think constantly about the end. Just spending time with your mum and talking to her as much as possible is good. Maybe ask her questions about things, I talked to my dad about some bits of his life I didn't know much about when he was dying. Just to try and fill in blanks so I knew more about his pre-kids days. We also had a few talks about what we wanted to happen when he died, those were awful but they were helpful. That's probably more for your dad though. I'm so sorry you are going through this and when you're so young as well. I hope you can have some good talks with your mum in the coming weeks/months. Tell her you love her a lot. xx
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    Hi Laura, I agree with others that you can't really prepare yourself and it can be best to focus on the moment rather than think constantly about the end. Just spending time with your mum and talking to her as much as possible is good. Maybe ask her questions about things, I talked to my dad about some bits of his life I didn't know much about when he was dying. Just to try and fill in blanks so I knew more about his pre-kids days. We also had a few talks about what we wanted to happen when he died, those were awful but they were helpful. That's probably more for your dad though. I'm so sorry you are going through this and when you're so young as well. I hope you can have some good talks with your mum in the coming weeks/months. Tell her you love her a lot. xx
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