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how to prepare myself?

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Hi,

i'm laura and i'm 14, my mum started going downhill around 6 weeks ago, 2 weeks ago it got to the point where she could barely walk, eat, go up/down stairs, get up off the sofa and when she fell over she couldn't get back up. 2 days ago she got told she had 2 months left at best. me and my dad are relatively strong people, however every night we cry together.. we don't know what to do without mum. she does everything, and she means everything to us. she's the person i tell all my secrets, the person who lets me get all my emotion out, i tell her everything - she's the only person who understands.. it may seem silly to ask, but how can i prepare myself for her death?

thank you..

laura x 

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    Hi Laura,

    i am so sorry you are having to go through this at such a young age. I lost my mum 8 months ago and was similar in that we were told she didn't have long. I, like you, just wanted to do whatever I could to prepare myself. Unfortunately no matter how hard you prepare yourself, it doesn't make it any easier when the times comes. You can sometimes spend too much time trying to prepare yourself for the end and not enough times just being with the person and facing the last months with them. My advice would be just don't focus on the end yet, just be there for her whilst she is still here and spend the last precious months you have with her, talking to her and saying everything you want to say. I thought I had, but there was so much more I wished I'd said to my mum as it all happened quite quickly in the end. Draw strength from your dad as you will be a great comfort to one another when the time comes. Please reach out if you need to talk some more - happy to help if I can. Shelley x

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    Hi Laura,

    i am so sorry you are having to go through this at such a young age. I lost my mum 8 months ago and was similar in that we were told she didn't have long. I, like you, just wanted to do whatever I could to prepare myself. Unfortunately no matter how hard you prepare yourself, it doesn't make it any easier when the times comes. You can sometimes spend too much time trying to prepare yourself for the end and not enough times just being with the person and facing the last months with them. My advice would be just don't focus on the end yet, just be there for her whilst she is still here and spend the last precious months you have with her, talking to her and saying everything you want to say. I thought I had, but there was so much more I wished I'd said to my mum as it all happened quite quickly in the end. Draw strength from your dad as you will be a great comfort to one another when the time comes. Please reach out if you need to talk some more - happy to help if I can. Shelley x

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