I didn't realise my husband had been ill for quiet a few years. Looking back he had been ill for maybe 13 years. A strong personality a leader and then he had no control. His business failed then the surgery of two new hips and zapping tumours and then the liver cancer took hold. I miss that he cannot share with me the joy of the grandchildren but he taught me to be strong and that is what I must do. I am dreading the days of the 25th and 26th. 30 years and the only people mentioned on my Christmas cards are myself and the dog.The dog who is a friend. Good Will to everybody. Chin up,