Hi Jenny,

So sorry to read that your husband has died so soon after being diagnosed. I can only imagine what you're going through. 

Talk to a more sensitive funeral director - my family has used the Co-op in the past and they seemed OK and will have processes in place to help people in difficult situations.

Steph has pointed you to some practical help - there's also some information here which might help www.co-operativefuneralcare.co.uk/.../ I'm not sure but the funding they refer to might be different to those Steph has linked to. A long as your husband was paying his National Insurance while he was working, there's no reason you shouldn't get the benefits you're entitled to including help with funeral costs. 

Good luck

Dave