Lost both parents within 3 months to bowel cancer

This past year I've lost both my parents to bowel cancer within a very short space of time. On the outside to work colleagues, my partner and family I'm functioning, but inside I'm screaming - I really can't believe how much I'm missing my mum and dad. In my late 40's I'm experiencing panic attacks and anxiety that I've never experienced before. I wondered if anyone else had experienced these 'symptoms' and whether anyone has any coping mechanisms that have helped through this just awful time.

Thanks so much.

  • Hi I'm sorry for loss it bad enough losing one parent but two in short time my heart goes out to. My father got bowel cancer he fine it's been over ten years two years ago my mother was told she also got bowel cancer it hit us all in bad way. I was also suffering with anxiety at the time I didn't know what they where one day I was bad so I went to doctors they told me I was having anxiety. The Doctor prescribed me with propranolol 40 mg they do help I take one in morning and one at night. It's under control. My mother went for here scan in July and was told they found mass it turned out to be on bowel she had more test and was told that its inoperable.she went back to the doctors and was told it gone in here blood and that she haven got long we don't know how long . It's living nightmare when you been told they can't do nothing. You better of going to doctors don't try and cope with all what happen on you own make appointment straight away before it do get worst hope this help you not alone. 

  • Hi London129

    My mum is terminally ill with ovarian cancer and my dad has bladder cancer. I also suffer from panic attacks and anxiety due to the stress I'm under. I also have fibromyalgia which at the moment is so painful I am taking diazepam. The only advice I can give is stay in the moment take each hour and day one at a time. Rest where possible and do something for you. Just having a bath helps even though I don't feel I have the energy to do that some days. Stay strong lots of love xx

  • Thank you so much. I will make that appointment.

  • Thank you. And hoping you stay strong to. X

  • Hi [@London129]‍ 

    I'm sorry for your loss. Would recommend seeing a GP regarding your anxiety so that's it's on record just in case you need to take anytime of work.

    What do you enjoy doing? What are your interests? Take each day as it comes and do something that you enjoy doing.

    Over time you can try doing something that your parents once enjoyed doing and only when you are ready, recently losing loved ones is tough and memories can trigger raw emotions.

     

    Take each day at your own pace and talk to others about your loss try not to bottle things up. Some people recommend counselling if it helps, be aware there are bad ones out there. Remember you're never alone there are friends and relatives who are happy to help.

    My sisters and I have just reached our early thirties and my brother is in his late twenties. In the space of 4 years we've lost our beloved uncle, great uncles, grand father and now experiencing a traumatic time as my mum has been diagnosed with Advance Terminal Cancer in the Liver, Bowel and Lung with my dad not coping at all. If you have siblings they are the best lean on each other.

     

    Sending you lots of love xxxx

  • Glad I could help look after you self . 

     

     

     

  • Thank you so much for reaching out - especially since you are going through such an awful time yourself. Take care of yourself and yours.

    xxx

  • HI London just wondering how you doing take care .