Hello A_P

I am ever so sorry to read this. I am 23 and have recently lost my dad to bowel cancer. It's so cruel what cancer does and there's not much i can say to make it better but one bit of advice I was given which helped me was to 'sponge him up' get everthing you can within reason and practically possible. I got my dad's fingerprint and put it into a dogtag/ necklace piece of jewelly so I always have it or it could just ve spending time with him. How ever long there is left make you sponge him up while you can. Difficult days lie ahead and cancer such a horrible evil diease, just so pointless. If there is any support to you please accept it. 

You will feel alot of emotions and these will change and it's important to let them happen. I feel a angry that cancer has taken my dad so young. 

I just hope you make the most of the time left and make it special. I will be thinking of you in my thought and im always a message away

Hi A.P

you are so young to have to go through the loss of your father and I really feel for you at this moment.

i lost my dad just under 2 weeks ago to Unknown cancer of the bile duct . My dad was admitted to a hospice on his last day as he declined very quickly and we were not prepared for it, but the hospice was lovely and dad felt at peace and safe. I always thought my dad would keep going and always installed hope into him , so am absolutely devastated.

you must now hold your head up and be by your dads side so he knows you are there, talk to him just like normal, chat about the news or whatever he likes, or just sit and listen to the radio or T.v Together, treasure these moments as I did and I take comfort knowing my dad felt calm during this time.

take care and stay strong.

Hello A_P..

I am so sorry to hear of how poorly your Dad is ..i am going through something similar my dad has mesothelioma which has spread to his brain and he has been hospitalized for 2 weeks ..discharged home on wed and he is now in a hospice.. he was quite chatty yesterday but on going this afternoon he has deteriorated so much he is barely conscious and the nurses say its not going to be long .The nurses and staff are so lovely and we feel that he is in the best place ..where we can sit and talk to dad and hold his hand .

I have felt the exactly the same way you do since my dad became ill so quickly ..i want to scream and shout ..why my dad ?? I want to curl up in a ball and pretend its a bad dream ..but i know for a fact my dad knows im there.. he knows i love him ..more than i could ever show him.

He knows i  will look after my mum for him till they can be together again.

Just spend every precious  minute you can with your dad ..talk to him.. tell him how much you love him.

We always think we are the only ones it happens to ..thats how i felt ..until i joined this site and read peoples stories..there will always be someone who can answer your questions and know what your going through.

Take care and hugs to you x

Sarah

I am sorry you are going through this. My dad has stomach cancer and I feel so sad - he had a gastrectomy 6 weeks ago and I lived in a B and B for over 2 weeks to be near him in the specialist hospital - he did really well but was told the cancer was in some lymph nodes and small blood  vessels. He now may be offered  (hopefully ) chemotherapy next. Eating is difficult but we try to find him things that he finds appetising - funny really as some of what he likes isn't so good for him but it is fuel and calories in my view - wotsits/ dorritos with grated cheese, chicken nuggets and fish and chips. He is so brave he amazes me and I am so proud of him and I hate what he is going to face he diligently nursed my mum and his sister - this is the least I can do for him but it so hard.