Hi I'm so sorry to hear of your poor dad, yes at at such a young age. I feel his pain and yours. My dad died 3 weeks ago from pancreatic cancer which he only found out he had 3 weeks earlier after being unwell for a few weeks. We are all in shock still. He couldn't accept it and died suffering as he wouldn't have pain relief, he was angry and didn't really want us round. It's so hard seeing someone you love dying and knowing they don't want to die is heartbreaking. Give him lots of love and talk about happy memories. Your not being selfish and I still have unanswered questions so we all feel like that. You also need someone you can talk, cry and let your feelings out to as its not good to hold it in. I hope you get as long as possible with your dad which I didn't with mine. Sending you hugs xx

I am so sorry to hear about your dad.  I lost my dad back in May after a very short 2 1/2 week battle with pancreatic cancer.  He was fit and well until going on holiday, from there he had a blood clot which quickly was diagnosed as the cause being pancreatic, he died 2 weeks later.  I feel your pain, how can such a strong person change and this horrible disease just take over.  I have so many questions the main one being 'why us' but then I ask myself why anyone... Spend every second you can with your dad, tell him everything you want too, I have peace knowing there were no unsaid words my dad knew exactly how loved he was and although not given the chance he would have fought if he could.  Keep strong as a family, it's times like now you need each other more than you would ever realise. xx 

Thank you for your reply and again I'm so sorry for the loss of dad. Hopefully we will get the answers we are looking for and I will enjoy every day I have left with him. I have a wonderful husband who is doing an amazing job of looking after me and my mum.. thank kyou again for your kind words xx