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Don't know how to feel.?

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My dad aged 52 died on 26th may 2016 after a very long hard battle with a aggressive rare brain tumour. I only found out yesterday as I got back from lanzarote. My heart is in two, I feel lost, I burst in to tears when I found out but I can't cry no more. I feel numb. Anyone that has  gone through this experience can someone please tell me how I'm feeling is normal. The other thing I want to know is does anyone ever feel like someone is with them after a loved one has died. I feel very odd and feel like someone is here with me. I can't cope. 

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    I'm sorry to hear this. Bereavement is a very sad & confusing time. It is normal to feel numb at times and you will probably feel other emotions too, sometimes all at once. There may be anger, sadness, numbness & frustration. It's okay to feel these things. If you can talk to someone like a friend or family that might help you to work through your feelings. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself time. Xx

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    I'm really sorry to see you've returned home to that complete shock. I think your feelings are completely normal. My mum was sure my dad was here after he had passed and who are we to judge. I did read it is quite normal to feel that after a loss. Take every minute of every day bit by bit. It's a very hard journey. Take care x

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