Hey, I am so sorry that you, your mum and little sister are going through such a terrible heartache, there is nothing anyone can say to take your pain away, but we are all here to support and encourage you. My son who is 13 lost his dad last May to a brain tumor, it was very hard for me to watch him go through the initial stages of his grief, and I didn't know how to help him. I just did what was natural, cuddles, let him cry or just lay and go to sleep with him. 

You are far stronger than you can imagine, even if right now you are lost in grief, it will get better. Try and connect with your little sister, sounds like she needs it. Talk about dad, all the good things, funny memories. Do a memorial for him somewhere you guys can go and spend time to remember your dad. 

Your mum and sis need you right now, be strong and know you will be all right. 

Xx

Hi Gemma,

Thank you so much for this reply. It's been six years now since I lost my father (I can't believe it) and I posted to this website at just sixteen. I felt helpless & lost. I was keeping a lot of emotions to myself, struggling with depression and PTSD from witnessing my dads deterioration.

I cannot stress to you how lovely your reply is. I understand how horrible a brain tumour is and the impact grief has on a family. You are an amazing support to your son and I hope you are looking after yourself also.
 

It's become a lot easier to talk about my dad, share memories, and start to remember the good times. I'm approaching graduation at university now and I've felt sadness knowing my dad won't be here to see it, but I read a beautiful poem which finished with the line: "And when I turned to face grief I saw that it was just love in a heavy coat".

Grief is just love. You're doing an amazing job and I promise you, your son will always admire the strength and love you provided in those teenage years.

Hi Gemma,

Thank you so much for this reply. It's been six years now since I lost my father (I can't believe it) and I posted to this website at just sixteen. I felt helpless & lost. I was keeping a lot of emotions to myself, struggling with depression and PTSD from witnessing my dads deterioration.

I cannot stress to you how lovely your reply is. I understand how horrible a brain tumour is and the impact grief has on a family. You are an amazing support to your son and I hope you are looking after yourself also.
 

It's become a lot easier to talk about my dad, share memories, and start to remember the good times. I'm approaching graduation at university now and I've felt sadness knowing my dad won't be here to see it, but I read a beautiful poem which finished with the line: "And when I turned to face grief I saw that it was just love in a heavy coat".

Grief is just love. You're doing an amazing job and I promise you, your son will always admire the strength and love you provided in those teenage years.