I do enjoy catching up with friends especially now the evenings are drawing in so early. My two work shifts were extremely busy this week and the Christmas shoppers out in force . I went to a Halloween craft market on Monday night, held a Body shop party at home on Wednesday and then helped my daughter at the mum and toddler group's Christmas shopping fundraiser last night. Today just popped to the gym and then did housework before finally putting the fire on for a coffee break. Am seeing friends on Sunday but will go walking tomorrow once the food shop is done.
Hope you have a pleasant weekend. No doubt more fireworks to listen to. Been quite a few already around here but I do not plan going to the local display this year. My hubby used to love these nights but I am not the greatest fan. Take care. Jules
Hi Syl, yes thank you I managed to get through the anniversary but was feeling quite under the weather the week before and the week after, think I may have been a bit run down. Xmas will be hard, I feel like it is My first Christmas without Sam, don't remember much about last year I think I was in a state of shock. I will probably go to my sisters. How are you at the moment are you managing to keep busy? Love and hugs Debbie xxxxx
Hi Debbie, im having a few health problems at the moment , got to go for a CT scan Friday having breathing troubles ,im in hospital wednesday to have fluid drained from my ear, its awful going to hospital on your own at least hubby had me i dont like asking the kids as they have to work .think me and the kids ars having a quite xmas dinner just the three of us then we will go to the crem in the afternoon to put flowers on my mum and dads plot, and put flowers in a vase for hubby. im not in the mood to do anything at the moment im a born pessimist so am worried about the scan as hubby had lung cancer.sorry to sound a bit morbid but thats me all over lol take care Syl x
Hi Jules,how did your party go there are some lovely things in the Body Shop but they are dear ,i go in some times , im not to bothered about xmas this year having a quite dinner at my sons just the three of us ny health not to good at the moment having a CT scan Friday im quite worried as my hubby had lung cancer and my symptoms are the same as his was also in hospital wednesday to have fluid drained from my ear my hubby was a lovely opptomist im just the opposite sorry to dump my woes on you have a nice week end im out with my sister for a few hours tomorrow take care Syl x
So sorry to read of your continuing health problems which I can understand must be very distressing for you and the waiting for appointments/scans and results is such an anxious period. Never any need to apologise for sharing your feelings. This forum provides a safe haven for so many and I still use my own thread to offload on those dark days that I feel the need for extra support. Sometimes it just feels easier to speak freely here rather than worry your nearest and dearest. Of course, when our hubbys were with us there was mutual support close by and I have to admit to feeling more vulnerable at certain times. Doubt that will change easily but being able to chat on forum has helped.
My Body Shop evening was a very pleasant social occasion. No pressure (my daughter is the consultant!!) and lots of lovely offers on the night which meant my family/friends nearly all got 30% discount so handy both for personal buys and gifts for Christmas.
The following evening I went to a Christmas Shopping Night held to raise funds for Mother and Toddler Club (which my daughter helps organise). Was like a market with craft stalls and local 'at home' businesses. Helped set up from 6-8 and then doors were open and we had steady flow for a couple of hours before it ended at 10 pm. After clearing up the hall my daughter dropped me home. Needless to say I managed to buy a few more gifts which was very handy indeed.
Hope you enjoy the time with your sister. I have my son, partner and little grand-daughter coming for lunch today after they have taken her swimming and will be nice to have company. I popped to the gym first thing so enjoyed the sunshine after yesterday's awful day.
So sorry to hear about your health issues I hope everything turns out ok, I can totally understand how hard it must be going through this without hubby. We are always here for you to offload anytime. Sending love and best wishes Debbie xxxxxxx
Hi Jules, sounds as if your geting into the xmas spirit and buying up the body shop for your family and friends. me and the kids arnt bothering with xmas this year ,just a quite dinner at my sons. i have had my scan at my local hospital got to wait now for the results , also had a gromet fitted in my right ear, they drained it as it was full of fluid it was surpposed to help with my tinatus, it dosnt seem to have worked at the moment . we have had a lot of rain just lately so havnt took george out much this week,going to the friendship group Monday sometimes i have to force my self to do things feel sad at losing hubby and health worrying me gets to much some times,as i said before im a pessimist so that dosnt help ,i try to be positive but the feeling dosnt last long take care Syl x
Hi Debbie nice to hear off you, have had my scan just got to wait for them to send for me with the results, it is hard doing it all by myself,the kids have to work and i dont like asking any body else hope every thing ok with you take care Syl x
I too am really missing hubby with both Christmas and 2nd anniversary of his death looming. He absolutely loved this time of year and being with family (even had a bright green shirt and was christened Mr Holly by our kids when small - it stuck!). Being with family and future inlaws for the day it will be busy and our kids and grandchildren give my life a reason to be blessed still. I know hubby will be there in spirit as we all remember him and as it is Darcey's first Christmas that brings joy and for them all it is important to make happy memories. My grandson who will be 8 at the end of the month often talks of his grand dad as we all do and I have no doubt that there will be tears at some point during the festivities but no shame in that. I will also go down and see myMum though she has never liked Christmas but used to make an effort when my Dad was alive as he loved it (they were definitely chalk and cheese).
The body shop goodies were mainly for myself (love their bath stuff) though a couple of bits will make up the token gifts we exchange with friends/family. Managed to get a couple of DVDs that my eldest grandson wants so another tick of the list yesterday. Christmas day will be mainly spent chatting round the meal able and then taking the dog and children for a walk before coming back home. Will be on my own until lunch time which will give me quiet time for reflection. Daughter and family staying overnight and will be with me Boxing Day and it is usual for friends to pop in for a cuppa if they are passing. As my son and family will pop over to see the future inlaws they also said they will call in for a bit which will be lovely. With more space in my through lounge I had no doubt the little ones will be busing making dens(the favourite pasttime for the two boys at the moment (not to self to keep the playstuff handy for building as it keeps them occupied quite well).
Hope you do not have to wait to long worrying for your results. It is certainly not easy having to face things alone is it? I do feel anxious when such things are approaching and always glad to get them over. Do hope they can get to the bottom of your health worries. My Mum also had grommits fitted for tinnitus and it took a few weeks before she noticed a small difference though she was told there was no complete cure and was advised to use other noise to help block it. She finds it very unpleasant especially as she is now has poor hearing as this seems to make the condition more irritating and no longer uses her music headphones.
Very wet and windy here this morning but am going out in around half an hour for my usual trip to gym and then have a 2 mile walk planned - boots and brolly at the ready. Need to keep the exercise up to help with my arthritis which the damp weather does not help!
Hope you enjoy your Monday group get together. Having time during the day to be social does help me cope somewhat with the quieter evenings and it is amazing how many people chat when out walking (even though I am very often the only one without a dog!!). Will definitely be a muddy walk today I think especially as horses often use the bridleways through the local woods. I will also try and pop into the farmer's market en route.
Be kind to yourself and come and chat when you need to offload. The support I get on my thread on dark days helps so much. Take care. Jules xx
Hi Jules, thought i would send u a quick message not much to tell you at the moment ,not heard anything off my scan yet ,i have a awful cough at the moment been to the dr on a coures of antibiotics, so havnt been out much still took george out just to get some fresh air.my son goes away Saturday,so wont see him for a couple of week if i feel up to it going out for sunday dinner with my daughter, it depends if my cough is any better i hope so feeling a bit down at the moment nothing seems to be going right lately .take care have a nice week end spk to you soon Syl.
