Syliva, I am so very sorry for your loss, I know how it feels, my husband passed away in October and I miss him so much, I too wish they could let us know they are ok.  There are lots of people on here going through the same terrible time who will offer support.  Sending love to you Debbie xxxxxx

Hi debbie, how are you havnt heard off you in a while i feel ok at the moment health wise ,got to go the hospital next month  to see about my breathing me and the kids just having a quite xmas dinner we will go to the crem  to put flowers on my parents grave ,we will put some flowers in a vase for my hubby ,it is my hubbys birthday on the 27 dec  might go for a walk weather permiting  to a place called spike island my hubby used to like watching the mersey from there .  Take care  have a peaceful xmas  will be thinking of you  Syl x

Hi Syl and Debbie

Hope you wont mind a joint reply (just stops me repeating myself!).  Know we are all going to struggle through the festive season but wanted to wish you both a peaceful few days with the family.

Debbie hope that annoying cold clears up for you and am sure having your young great niece around will help you through too.

Syl I am sure being with your children will bring you all some comfort.

 I am grateful to be having the children/grandkids for company (am at my sons for Darcey's 1st Christmas Day with my daughter and family too plus my future daughter in law's parents and sister so a very full house (not forgetting the Westie!)).  They will pop in to spend some time with me on Boxing Day.

Went to see my Mum this morning and also laid flowers at hubby's resting place.  Tomorrow will have a day to myself for reflection  (plus gym visit and picking up butcher's order) and preparation.

Take care of yourselves, virtual hugs.  Jules xx

Hi Debbie, hope your feeling better and your cold has gone, every one i meet at the moment is full of coughs and colds its the time of year.hope you had a nice xmas with your family, mine was a quite dinner with the kids then to the crem .we managed to go to spike island for a walk  as it was a nice day  for hubbys birthday its in Widnes its just a lovely walk that over looks the river Mersey .i will also glad when its all over, i am going away for a few days with my daughter on the 2 Jan were going withs shearings coaches to Harrogate  dont know how i will feel as my hubby and me loved our coach trips i hope i can enjoy it  but it will feel strange not being  with him  have a peacefull new year Syl x

Hi Jules,  glad you had a good xmas with your family, must have been quite hectic at times  . I  enjoyed dinner just me and the kids it was nice to reflect on the good times  when   hubby was here we also went on one of his faverouite walks on his birthday 27 Dec as it was a lovely day  . I am also going out with my sister new years eve to the local pub then staying over at hers, i didnt wont to go but every one said i shoudnt  be on my own while its the first year with out hubby but im not looking foward to it. Im going away for a few days on the 2Jan with my daughter on a coach to Harrogate will see if i enjoy it  as we loved going  on our coach holidays it will seem strange going  with my daughter .take care and have a peacefull new year Syl x

Hi Syl

Glad you were able to enjoy good memories with your children over the Christmas period. 

With my grandchildren ranging in age from 7 months, 3yr and 8yrs it was mainly about keeping their routine going interspersed with the excitement and games and enjoying family meals together. They went home by 7 on Boxing Day so had my peaceful evening and then yesterday a lovely frosty walk to see my Mum followed by a day of housework.

Back to normal routine today as due in work for 8.30 opening and so another year of festivities has been managed.  Never been big on New Year and usually spend it alone unless asked to babysit but I do not think either of the families are going out this year, preferring to stay at home.  Anniversary of hubby's death is on the 3rd so will spend that quietly too. 

As it is now only a couple of months now to my son's wedding this is something to look forward to and wil be catching up with some relatives not seen for a couple of years.  Thankfully quite a small intimate occasion and will entail a couple of nights away so a mini break.

Hope you enjoy your social evening with your sister followed by the break with your daughter.  I had a long weekend away with my daughter  in March this year and really enjoyed it so am sure you will to.

Take care of yourself and hope 2017 is peaceful for you and your family.  Jules xx

Hi Syl, unfortunately am not much better went to my sisters Xmas day but had to leave early as I felt rotten, then at 1.30 in the morning got a really bad earache so boxing day had to ring nhs helpline eventually a doctor called me back and said to go to primary care at 1am I was so tired but had to go as I felt so ill, diagnosis perforated eardrum and infection, basically been ill the whole of Christmas so been stuck at home on my own most of the time, I have not encouraged visitors as I don't want anyone else to catch this really bad cold.   So all in all rubbish time.  Glad you had a nice time and hope you can enjoy your coach trip xxxxx Debbie 

Hi Debbie

Really sorry to hear that you are so poorly.  Bad cold aggrevated by a perforated eardrum must be so very painful and very lowering.  Bet you just want to curl up in a ball under the covers.  Sending hugs and hope you will soon be feeling a lot better. Jules x

Hi Jules ,hope your new year was enjoyable  i got my wish and stayed at home on my own new years eve i just coudnt face going  out  and trying to enjoy my self , i made my self a little buffet  had a few drinks  i watched Robbie Williams ,then the fireworks in London on BBC 1 i went to bed  about 12 45.i am sure hubbys was with me in spirit i like to think he was going to my daughters to day  for a roast dinner my son is joining us as well, then off to Harrogate tomorow for a few days  hope i can enjoy it,spk to you when i get back regards Syl x

Hi Debbie, sorry you had a bad xmas its awful when your not well, its seems worse when  your on your own, at least they   have sorted the problem  and can treat it now. as i said to jules i didnt go out new years eve ,i wanted to stay on my own i wished hubby  a happy new year  with a  irish coffee one of our  faverouite drinks, i like to think  he could hear me i hope so. Going to harrogate tomorrow for a few days  with my daughter hope i can enjoy it ,hope your feeling better soon  take care Syl x

Hi Debbie, sorry you had a bad xmas its awful when your not well, its seems worse when  your on your own, at least they   have sorted the problem  and can treat it now. as i said to jules i didnt go out new years eve ,i wanted to stay on my own i wished hubby  a happy new year  with a  irish coffee one of our  faverouite drinks, i like to think  he could hear me i hope so. Going to harrogate tomorrow for a few days  with my daughter hope i can enjoy it ,hope your feeling better soon  take care Syl x