Hi Unicorn_girl

Sorry for the loss of your dad.

You won't be alone here.

There are many others who are coming to terms with the loss of a loved one.

There is some information here on coping with grief.

I hope you find it useful.

Please come and share your feelings whenever you find it helpful.

Best wishes

Jane

Hi Unicorn Girl,

I too lost my father a few weeks before Christmas. He lived in Canada and I live in the south of England. I never got to know hin as well as I would have liked to. Weonly made contact with him about 25 years ago and spent a week with him 24 years ago. Although we had never met as he married my mother in the early part of the war, I found we were so alike; same likes and dislikes and mannerisiums.

I do miss him and not being able to talk to him on the phone. Over the years I have now lost ten close family members to cancer including my mother so I do understand what a loss you are trying to cope with. I would just like to say, allthough your dad is no longer with you, I always feel there is a part of them still inside of us, for they have helped shape the person we have become through the guidance and advice they have given us over the years. I know I often say or do something only to realize its just what my mother would have said or done and I do find it comforting.

Take care, sending kind thoughts and best wishes your way, Brian

Hi there, I'm sorry to hear about your dad. We sound in a similar position although I'm 4 months in to this process. My dad was also my friend and neighbour so life seems pretty empty without seeing him out the window or popping in. My dad died 3 days after being diagnosed with cancer, believed of the lung. I think when they die so suddenly you are having to digest the diagnosis as well as the grief all in one. I still spend my days wondering did that really just happen? I know people die but my dad was only 64, far too young in my eyes. I still cry most days. Do you have anyone else around for support? It's really hard in the first few months, I've found once I'd more or less digested all the information and questions I had I've been able to remember him more for the man he was. My dad had hidden being unwell till a few weeks before he died, that's why I had some many questions. Keep coming on here, it provides lots of support. Take care.